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I have 5 years of experience in 3D design & operations. I accepted the offer of 10L from Accenture to come on notice period (90 days). Now John Deere is offering 11.5L based upon Accenture office. Having global economic slowdown in consideration shall I take this offer? Accenture John Deere
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It really depends on your baby’s temperament. I had one colicky baby that needed to be held or entertained 24/7 to not cry so I couldn’t do anything else except take care of them. Also didn’t sleep at night so I was a zombie. Going back to work felt like a vacation in comparison.
Another one of my babies was very happy and chill. I was able to take them out and enjoy my mat leave a lot more. So ymmv.
This is the answer. And you won’t know what kind of baby you have until they get here!!
If you want to breastfeed prob hard to enjoy hobbies or other stuff but if you ditch breastfeeding you can always hire a nanny and then have lots of time to yourself - amazing!
There are lots of variations on breastfeeding/pumping/formula combos and whichever you choose will definitely impact your experience significantly and make a huge impact in terms of what your days look like while on leave. I chose to formula feed from the start which definitely made everything about my experience as a new mom less challenging and gave me more freedom. This is not to suggest that this is the right choice for you! But I would say that this may be the single biggest variable when it comes to what your days will look like while you’re on leave.
Depends on the baby, mine was a nightmare (God bless him, he’s an easy teenager so he’s making it up) and I basically did nothing but try to keep him from crying for four months. Some babies are pretty fun, I would suggest you try to spend at least some of the time making other mom friends
I joined neighborhood parent Facebook groups and met up for coffee with other new moms in the neighborhood I met through facebook. It’s been so helpful to not feel isolated, also have met other lawyer moms which is also great.
I had a chill baby. I binge watched SO MUCH tv
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Mine was born in September and I have pretty bad health anxiety, so traveling wasn’t in the cards for us. But it was great to have the time to just chill with her without obligations and to have the ability to physically recover and offset any rough nights with rest at home.
No. Zero time other than to care for baby. And really this is what the leave is for so that’s fine.
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I did not have time for hobbies, it was a cycle of feeding, pumping, washing bottles/pump parts, changing diapers, etc. Line up some shows/movies you want to catch up on, though; I did watch a lot of tv while doing all of the aforementioned things!
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My son was a chill baby and I enjoyed my leave. Spent most of it abroad with family for built-in help, took a couple of trips (travel is easy when they are in potato-stage, then gets harder). Lots of walks, some meetups with other new moms in the neighborhood.
I would note that I am also comfortable breastfeeding about anywhere and good with carrier/stroller naps (actually he napped better that way).
I had a c section so my recovery was extended as compared to natural delivery (so first few weeks were rough). My hubs went back to work at 4 weeks so I solo-parented all day for the remainder of my 16 week leave. My baby was chill so I went on walks with my mom friends, ran errands, sat at a coffee shop with my stroller, and binged shows. I definitely didn’t have time/energy for all my organizing and home DIY projects, but it was an awesome leave regardless. I ended my leave with a short vacation with my baby, my mom, my sis, and her baby of similar age. It was so fun and I highly recommend if you can swing it!! It was a core memory I will cherish forever.
Depends on your baby. Mine was insanely colicky and it was horrible. Bless her heart. I had no energy for anything other than keeping both of us alive.
This. Mine is 15 weeks tomorrow and is insanely fussy. I love her but it’s an endless cycle of feeding, changing, and contact naps. No time for anything.
I’m on leave now, going back in 2 weeks. Agree that it depends on temperament, and depends on the stage of leave. My baby is 3.5 months and still insanely fussy so I’m basically with her all the time. She also barely naps so when I do get time, it’s usually short 30 min bursts. In the beginning though, it was survival mode as she refused to sleep unless she was held. I had high hopes of having time to do some things around the house during my leave, like going through my closet and purging stuff while she napped but that simply hasn’t been possible.
For those saying you didn’t really have time for hobbies, were you not able to switch off with your spouse so that you could each take time to go do your hobbies? This is not a husband slight at all, just wondering if there’s a reason that is not as practicable as it seems in my mind!
My husband has been really helpful but he’s working full time while I’m on leave, so his help is primarily at night so I can get rest. And when I do have time away from the baby, it has been to do things like shower or laundry.
I’m on leave right now. My LO is 7 weeks today. I would say I have a relatively chill baby. However, he only sleeps well when he attached to me (contact naps). Sometimes he naps on my husband. I’m also breastfeeding (every 2/3/4 hours — depending on our child) and that takes a lot of time.
I have been able to do minor chores or take care of myself (wash my face/shower etc) when I’m free and go on walks with our LO. I also have seen friends/family. Other than that, it’s tough to get much more done. I listen to a lot of podcasts and watch some TV when I’m nursing but don’t have a lot of time to do much else.
I also couldn’t do much while I recovered from birth. Feeling stronger and much better these days so going on longer and longer walks.
All this said, in a month, my husband and I and our LO will be traveling abroad.
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