How do you cope when the feedback is always negative?

I always think feedback should help you grow, but when it’s constant, vague, or only focused on what’s wrong I find it really starts to wear you down.

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Realizing that managers are not skilled and rarely are. They're more flawed than most but don't know they are. I'm sure many struggle with confidence and don't realize that they're hurting a real live human being. Ironically, they don't know how to give harsh feedback that needs to be given to transform talent so they settle for petty negativity. What I notice is that when a boss wants to develop talent and has the skills they give very harsh feedback to their friends who are not more talented but have a safe way of incorporating feedback thats true even if hard to hear. Meanwhile peons get comments about your weight, clothes, personality--and wtf does that do? LMAO.

Translate in your mind a negative feedback as a development opportunity

Some people are nothing but negative. When you aren't getting any positive feedback, it probably means the person isn't capable of giving positive feedback. You have to learn how to not take it personal.

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