how do you deal with your life not turning out the way you thought & feeling behind others? lately I’ve been hit with an overwhelming feeling of sadness/loneliness and it’s hard to deal with. I’m a 38 single woman, haven’t really ever had a relationship and most of my friends these days are just coworkers. I worked so hard to get ahead in my career but now I’m just alone & I don’t know how to deal with it. I know this unrelated to this group but I was hoping my fellow boss ladies had advice?

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Do you have any hobbies? I'm 35F and I also don't have any kids (but I love my kitties). I crochet and knit, and I've found that going to crafting meetups has given me a great social outlet that helps me feel engaged in my community. I've met new friends ranging ages 20-70 and they have connected me to other festivals and art vendor events in my area I wouldn't have found otherwise. I hope you can find some hobbies that help you feel like you have friends and passions outside of work. In the meantime, if you're local to DFW Texas, we should meet up sometime at a park or something! I always love making new friends. ☺️

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Oh, I feel this. I applaud you for sharing. I am certain there are other women reading this and seeing themselves.

Like you, I was so deep into work that I didn't marry until I was nearly forty. Flash foward, married now 20+ years, parents to an inspiring daughter.

I'll be honest, I had some homework to do that helped open the door to this relationship. I highly recommend therapy during peak moments but also for periodic tune-ups. It's not easy, sometimes impossible to self navigate important transitions. Give yourself this gift.

I love the suggestion, too, of meeting people through hobbies and volunteer activities. A friend introduced me to my husband. Some people really like to make matches. So let them know you're looking!

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I’m not single but I feel this in terms of not having a real friend group outside of work. I started reaching out to re-connect with extended family and that’s been helpful. Even just getting out to the gym, signing up for an exercise class instead of working out at home, has helped.

You can be proud of the choices you’ve made in the past and also decide to make different ones going forward. You’ve built a good career for yourself. Good! Now you’ve realized there are other parts of your life to build into too, so go for it. Hobbies are a great idea. My social circle is heavily influenced by my church. My college roommate meets people by going to a book club and making friends with her neighbors and local yarn shop. She used to go to swing dance nights to make friends. Whatever you’re into, there’s a community. Find your people!

I recommend you read this book make space for happiness by Tracy McCubbin. It helped me when I had similar feelings.

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