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We all have these moments, it’s part of being human and I’d bet everyone around you has their own version of this - they likely just aren’t forthcoming about it.
It might make sense to proactively schedule a chat with the appropriate person(s) to tell them you’re aware of what happened, what you learned through this experience, and put a strategy in place so it doesn’t happen again. Take responsibility for your part, be solution oriented, and keep looking forward (side note: this applies to almost everything in life).
Oooff been there. I wish I had a clock and turn back time an infinite number of times until I get it exactly the way I want it to be. Good news is someone will probably do something embarrassing again and if you get ahead of the joke, you can take control of the situation.
If it makes you feel any better, I worked at this place where everyone drank heavily during all of our work socials to the point where our company got banned from the San Diego Zoo for people feeding hot tamales to the animals, screaming loudly about animals....effing.... and peeing in public. I was definitely super drunk on that trip and wanted to die when they read the letter that the zoo sent with all the various complaints they got about us all (everyone would wear branded clothes, hats, jackets to work and we all had taken a half day and met at the zoo in our work clothes). There were definitely several times I made an ass out of myself while drunk, even during work at our Thanksgiving party and another time during our sexual harrassment training (I blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol that they kept fully stocked in the work fridge). I just kept my head down for a while after each incident and if it got brought up, acted unbothered even when I was really embarrassed lol
I just double down, no one can make me feel ashamed or embarrassed unless I let them. So I don’t and I remind them of it.
Time heals all wounds. Remember, people are to self absorbed, insecure, and to busy thinking about themselves than to be thinking about you. Take comfort in the fact that no one cares as much as you think. Just walk in, be the first one to laugh it off and fake confidence. People might even come to respect you for it.
Whatever you find yourself thinking about, keep in mind that no one else is thinking about it; it's just you. Remember that we all make mistakes and do stupid things from time to time; that is what makes us human.
Keep striving to be gentler on yourself. Don't punish yourself for your past experiences since it's a waste of time that you might be spent doing or thinking about something more enjoyable. Nobody is perfect.
I get bouts of embarrassing memories, too, especially at night when I'm trying to fall asleep. I'm convinced the only way out of it is through hypnosis.
I like to assume that if I don't shudder when I think of my past actions, I'm not evolving and learning. So you messed up. You now understand why, if not how. Congratulations, you have learned and developed. Continue doing so.
Laugh it off. Not giggle, but literally open your lips and laugh at how dumb and humiliated you were. If you're uncomfortable, you can do it alone in front of a mirror. This allows you to let everything out and actually take something positive away from it.
When I start focusing on the past and specific events I try and remind myself that by living in the past I’m ignoring the present.
I know it may seem hard to stop doing this but think to yourself- what good is thinking about negative experiences from the past going to bring to your life? Well the answer is nothing. Nothing positive and fulfilling anyway.
Every time an embarrassing memory pops up play the “curb your enthusiasm” theme song in your head.
Realizing how to deal with these types of memories was a fundamental shift for me.
In a nut-shell, I realized that everything that has happened in my life was supposed to happen that way. I did the best that I could at the time, and when these things happened, there was nothing else I could have done (it happened and there's no going back). So, once I came to understand that, I was able to forgive myself for all those mistakes, cringey things I did, and other embarrassing things.
But there's more to it than that... these events aren't just meaningless. Your responsibility is to learn and grow from them, so that you don't make the same mistakes again.
I like to think that if I don't look back at my past behavior and cringe, I'm not growing and learning. So you goofed. Now you know that, and maybe even why. Congrats, you've learned and grown. Keep doing that. Pair this with the other great advice already given, and you've got a solid framework for not getting upset.
Just accept it for yourself. "It happened. But its the past now. And its probably only me who remembers it anymore anyways".
Usually no one gives a fudge about your embarrassing moments. So let it go. If you do find that one person that starts bringing it up, laugh louder than them, and claim it as yours. If you have a great amount of anxiety, practice thinking about those embarrassing times and cracking up at something you can pick apart.
I think about those things too. You just got to let it go and be able to laugh about it. You've grown and those embarrassing things aren't you anymore.