How you manage the expectations of family with the travel and work commitments?

I am about 7 years into this and have spent nearly 60K in travel costs to be present with mine and my SOs families during holiday periods. I have tried to set expectations and boundaries but if I miss anything it is held as an afront.

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Is it a one way street or do they do their fair share of travel to come see you?

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My folks come to town once a year; SOs once every 2 years; twice total for our siblings

I see my family outside of holiday periods and go where I want for vacation. Let them be offended. If they care so much, they can come to you.

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What have your personal travel costs got to do with consulting/business travel ?

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Message keeps getting cut off. No idea why. If this travel aligns with your values and affordability, keep going. If no, find another way to honor your family.

Move closer..... just kidding. Do you have kids? Is your spouse on board with going less or hosting. Because is your SO thinks that's a good use of 12k a year, then there is no end in sight. If your spouse is on board, then you need to decide what is reasonable. Direct sibling related wedding ( nephew, nice, sister, brother) you going. Cousins ??? Christmas? Thanksgiving? Decide how you want to spend them. Alone? New traditions, alternate whose family, offer to host?

The key is deciding with your SO and do a United front. And decide if it's really about the money or if it's also you feel like you never got a day off. Then its easier to articulate. I travel for a living, it's not how I want to spend my time off. We're saving for a house, college, whatever.

At some point, you have to put your family first.

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You’re spending over 8k a year on flights? Is this international? My wife and I live in a different part of the country of both our families. I probably spend 2k a year on flights

Canada based. International (US) for SO

In general Canada travel costs quite higher than average US

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