I had a friend 8 years ago really wrong and hurt me. I have not spoken to nor have I seen them since. According to social media I think they just got a job a in my building. How do I handle this if I run into them?

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You don’t have to do anything at all. You can ignore them and walk by.
If it’s a high rise you’ll likely never see them. I worked in a 10 floor building with a friend for 3 years and we only ran into each organically once.

However I would consider asking yourself why you’re allowing this person to hold space in your mind and cause you anxiety 8 years later? If they don’t deserve to be in your life, they definitely shouldn’t be on your mind.

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It takes more energy to avoid them. Just say hi, and be a civil human being.

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From my personal avoidant playbook: headphones in, look at your phone, pretend you don’t see them/recognize them 🥲 but worth asking, are they aware they’ve hurt you and have never apologized? As in, is there a chance they might greet you and come up to you?

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Understandable! Still wondering though, are they aware of the harm they’ve caused and that this is still causing you anxiety so many years later? This also might be worth unpacking with a therapist. I hold a lot of grudges, and my therapist has helped me immensely with those lingering emotions

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For additional info: I don’t like knowing I have real beef with someone. We’re also adults now. I don’t want to be friends with them but I also don’t want it to be awkward if I am stuck in an elevator with them. ALSO I have anxiety lol

8 years later. You’re not on my social media! Someone deeply hurt you. Why are you still able to see their moves on social media ?

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