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If neither party objects, I can't imagine why people wouldn't just do it. It's generally only an issue is one person has considerably more money than the other. But we don't know what the future holds. And since half of marriages end in divorce it's always good to protect yourself.
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That’s how I see it too. It’s not about expecting the worst, but just being realistic and prepared. Life can change in ways we don’t anticipate, and having a prenup in place can actually take pressure off the relationship.
Having just finalized a long, miserable divorce, I'd highly advise you sign the dang thing. In a perfect world, you'll never need to rely on it. If things go awry like they do for half of all couples, you'll have one less thing to worry about as you start trying to rebuild your life.
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That’s exactly what I’ve been thinking. No one goes into marriage expecting it to end, but having a prenup in place feels like a smart way to protect both people if things don’t go as planned. I’m sorry you had to go through that, but really appreciate you sharing your perspective. It helps hearing it from someone who’s lived it.
Congratulations on the upcoming marriage! I also recently got married and we never even discussed a prenup, but if my husband had asked, I would have signed one no problem. I personally feel like you know your spouse better than anyone here and if you think things could change in any way, shape, or form in the future, it's smart to have one.
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Thank you! And congratulations to you too! I really appreciate you sharing that. I agree, it’s not about expecting something bad, but just being thoughtful about the future. Every relationship is different, and I think having the conversation (even if it’s awkward) shows a level of maturity and trust.
Prenups are whatever you’d want them to be. If life ever did take that unexpected turn, it’s that much easier to deal with. Think it’s worth talking about if you’re both interested. It never crossed my mind, but we were young and broke. Completely different story if you asked me today.
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Exactly. I think that’s what’s shifted for me too. When you're younger and have less to protect, it might not feel necessary. But as life gets more complicated, it just seems like a practical conversation to have.
Do it. At the end of the day IF something goes south, do you want the govt to decide who gets what, or would you rather rationally plan ahead and hope you never need to activate the plan? We don’t bat eyes at insuring our cars when we have no intention to wreck them. It’s such a smart thing to do.
I’m so glad I could offer you a helpful point of view! At the end of the day, the whole point of a prenup is to have a plan you hope you never need to activate. Also - congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
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I’m someone’s who is “a to death do us part”. But life is never truely a fairytale ending.
From what I have read and listened to, most divorces are emotional, grief filled events. Grief comes in a lot of different forms. And most of those forms cloud your rational thinking and turn folks into someone they usually would never be.
If the prenup is a way for the two of you to have good conversation about money, children, homes, parents, etc. please sign a negotiated win-win prenup.
If this doesn’t spur those questions, in addition to signing find one of those books that have like 1000 questions to answer before you get married.
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This really resonates. I think that’s why the idea of a prenup appeals to me, not because I expect the worst, but because I want to make sure we’ve had the hard conversations while we’re still grounded in love and mutual respect. Framing it as a win-win agreement and a way to spark deeper discussions about our future makes a lot of sense. I’m definitely looking into one of those question lists too. Thank you for the thoughtful advice.