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Sorry to hear OP, stay strong. I’ve been there too and often find myself back in it when tides turn and something new comes up.
I found this helpful to think about the balls that you are keeping in the air and which are glass vs rubber. I hope it helps you too. https://www.instagram.com/p/DJDkAVTgYJJ/?igsh=YnRzeXZqM3Y1Z2Jp
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Adding - both my kids and my dog all have a strong preference for me over my husband. For a while we tried to manage it and he steeled himself to the rejection but recently (and with the guidance of other parents), we’ve switched to “it’s Dad’s turn for bedtime/driving to school/etc” and dealing with their cries. I’ve now been sent out of the house on Saturday mornings (wooo!!!) because the kids are different and much happier when I’m out of the picture temporarily vs elsewhere in the house.
All this to say - ask for help, delegate what you can, bring in your village, and bend (slightly) less to your toddlers wishes. They will grow through it and your mental health is just as important as their happiness.
I hear it gets easier when they go to school. I’m in a similar boat and really drowning. Just hang in there, one day at a time. And prioritize sleep training if you haven’t already. It will make you and your child healthier if you get enough sleep.
💪🏼 I have this right now too!!! I have a 3 year old and he’s the same. Gets up early. Super clingy. I’m working on doing the hatch light colors to help him stay in his room in the morning until a decent time. Just started this week and it’s a slow learning process.
He goes to daycare (currently at grandma care during the day when I’m working) in the fall so that will help I think bc learning structure and rules outside of parents is a good skill. Grandma care is great but rules are loosey-goosey.. My daughter is 11 and it got a lot better around 5-6 years old where they are more independent. Setting boundaries and rules does help! Even for a toddler! It’s hard but it takes hard rules and consistency to make things stick. Both parents need to stick to the rules. This is how we also got out kids to have a great sleep routine as well. They go to bed at the same time each night and my 3 year old knows he has to stay in his room/bed even when he’s not sleeping yet.
I’m a dad to a toddler and I feel the same way. I have no advice but just want to say that other parents at work feel the same way.
This happens to all of us. You are not alone in this. The time commitment of parenting and the emotional strain never ends, it just changes as your kids grow.
Years:
0-2 - physically doing it all. Naps, carrying them around, making special food, guessing what is wrong and worrying, etc.
2-4 - mobile phase starts. Falling down baby gates everywhere, communication scales rapidly and then it’s their emotions and them not understanding what they’re feeling and how to communicate. Around 3 they argue with you and try to manipulate you.
Once they hit 4, the things above get a lot better. My 5 yr old is a LOT easier than when he was 3. You can also speak to a clingy 5 yr old and explain that you need to work and in an hour or whatever you’ll do legos or read a book.
You just need to follow through on those commitments and be 100% present bc they know when your mind or attention are elsewhere
My son says, “daddy put your phone down and be with me”