In a situation - want advice. Met guy, instant chemistry. First date was fabulous - PDA even. Went home. Could’ve slept over but we realized the ONLY thing we’re not compatible with is the desire for kids. Otherwise, SO MUCH long term compatibility. It’s otherwise a match made in heaven.

We’ve hung out 2 other times and I told him my boundary is making out because I’ll start to get feelings. Was respectful. Yesterday, we spent 6 hours cuddling which to me indicates there’s so much there
WWyouD?

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Be ready for long issues with most men that take you seriously. Woman does not ever want kids would be a red flag / deal breaker.

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I mean, just have sex, get it out of the way. Maybe he/she’ll be bad at it and none of this will matter.

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Sounds like lust

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Screenshot this… come back in 1 year and tell us how far… this is the best comment in the universe!!!!

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You met a man once … and already thinking about compatibility and match made in heaven? Only women can think like this…

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Did you find a hookup in NYC yet A1, or did everyone ignore you as they do on dating apps?

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Which wants kids and which doesn't?

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F doesn’t want kids, M does want kids

Time for a visit to the wood shed.

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You have the power to cut it off. If you’re having fun then enjoy it but know long term you want different things.

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Sounds like you're on a high. Give it another 4, 5 months.

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It depends on how committed you each are to your views on kids and if not getting your way would be a dealbreaker. If so, you’re wasting your time (which is fine as long as you know and are good with it). If not a dealbreaker, enjoy the short term and have fun!

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Now in my 60’s, I’ve lived through this all the way.
He didn’t want children but they were very important to me. Discussion was difficult during six years of living together, but he eventually agreed to have children so we got married. Couldn’t get pregnant for six heartbreaking years after wedding and when I finally insisted on fertility testing, he secretly arranged to have his vasectomy (!) reversed - in 12 years together he had never told me he had had a vasectomy.
Got pregnant right away (by then in my 30’s) and he showed little interest in parenting which was ok by me.
But when I found the vasectomy reversal paperwork, all trust was lost and we eventually divorced.
I remarried, this time to a man who was just as eager to have children as I was. We had a child and everything was different and so much better. Now he’s a wonderful, fully-committed father to both of my children.
Please examine your life goals: if having children is important, ONLY date men with the same life goal. This next man who also wants children will have even more amazing chemistry AND you’ll be able to raise your children with the same level of commitment.

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I’m on the opposite side of you in this equation (ie: I don’t want kids). I’m so sorry you had to go through all of this though. That’s a major breach of trust to get a vasectomy without telling you!! Glad you found someone new

Have fun while it lasts.

Tell us more about 6 hours of cuddling.

Not to me, but I can see why it would for some

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