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Pro
100% depends on the family/person.
My family does a secret Santa with a low dollar limit so I spend like $30 total on them. In my boyfriend's family each adult spends hundreds of dollars on each adult. Definitely a strange (and expensive) adjustment for me.
I feel you, same here. My bf’s family loves Christmas! I’m scared i’ll go broke!
Similar age. I generally spend $200-$300 on holiday gifts. A bit more for special occasions like birthday and anniversary.
Chief
There is no right answer to this because it varies widely by person and circumstance. Maybe ask them about their prior Christmases - what they got from different people or what they gifted others to guage spending?
Oh I read that as $29m for Christmas presents 😂
That would get me a beachfront home in Maui. I’ll take it!
My SO and I set explicit expectations around this. (We've decided we each have a "big gift holiday" - for her, it's Christmas and for me it's my birthday - where the gift can be $500-1000. For other holidays, we keep it under $100.)
Rising Star
I now boil it down to “can you just buy it yourself” it’s the idea that if you can already afford X, it’s not thrilling to me to buy you X when you clearly were just going to buy it, if it wasn’t Xmas
this is an interesting perspective - thanks
Ask whomever you are getting gifts for an Xmas list with different price points or give them a budget. I typically spend $100-250 on immediate family and everyone else gets a nice text.
One of my goals is to be balanced with what my wife gets me. My favorite trick is to then overbuy presents and present some of them, and then if she gets me more, I can “remember” the present hidden in the closet…also if she snooped my Amazon orders, then she doesn’t get a gift she might expect which is fun psychological warfare. If I don’t need to give the hidden presents, then I have a head start on her January birthday and our May anniversary
I think they should either be more than what you’d casually spend (e.g. we casually will buy $200 bags so getting another $200 bag isn’t that special), something they’ve wanted for a while and is just hard to get (e.g. I wanted to go to one restaurant for 7 years but it’s hard to plan a trip and also incredibly hard to get a reservation), or is something they wouldn’t get for themselves (e.g. partner hired an artist and had them hand draw portraits of us from a photo).
Pro
It really does depend. Ask your SO for their traditions. You will not be expected to bring gifts since you are Jewish. My brother is dating a Jewish girl and she partakes in our family dice game but she doesn’t buy other gifts. I think she usually gets my brother something ~ not hugely spendy. No one will really pay attention to the price of the gift so don’t sweat it too much.
I would have a convo around this. The amount my fiancé and I spend on gifts vary in amount but we typically agree ahead of time what the budget is. This way, each person is getting something similar in value. Also, we typically just tell each other what we want or give some ideas.