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A new CRV would be a great choice. If you buy luxury, make sure he's also ok with paying the inflated cost of ownership (insurance, maintenance, etc). Anything extra budget could be put towards a nice vacation or support a hobby.
Or send him on a Buddhist retreat or something... once a year or twice depending on location. Or maybe even buy him a simpler car. Is this about being able to show you can drop a pretty penny or really getting your dad something meaningful to HIM?
Maybe you shouln’t buy him more things if he is trying to get rid of them.
Maybe get him something he’s more interested in/passionate about?
He's trying to let go, and you think it's lame, so you're going to force a brand new material thing on him. Who is this gift really for?
My fiancée has the 2017 CR-V (same as the 2018). Compared to the CR-V of old (even the 2016), it might as well be a "lux brand." Why don't you let him drive the wheels off the one he has and when he *needs* a new one, step in and be the one to buy it?
Except, D3, you missed the whole Buddhist / shedding material possessions part of this thread. Harder to get into than Harvard, my ass.
Sigh. So for context, my dad is a hardcore Buddhist practitioner. And for those who don’t know what that means, it literally means they are learning to let go of their attachment (which includes material things) and finding happiness from helping others, inner peace, etc. He used to be into fast cars and nice things, but since he picked up religion, he literally went cold turkey. Doesn’t wear his Rolex’s anymore and always dresses down, etc. Last vacation we went on was lame. So hard to find something he’s passionate in aside from Buddhism. All he does is meditate.
Don't try to live his life for him. Respect his values. Simply tell him you would like to treat him to anything he wants and go from there. Don't be offended if he refuses.
Ask him what he would do with $30k (aka crv cost). If it's helping someone or donating for some cause z do it. That's what will make him happy. Not a depreciating asset
I would absolutely NOT buy him a luxury car. It's gonna waste your money for w/e happiness it bring him, or he may not even want it
I'd look into vacations and bhuddist retreats like was previously suggested. Maybe a vacation somewhere known for natural beauty than he can hike and meditate. Even go with him if you can. My best bonding experience with my dad as an adult was a 2 weeks hiking through the Irish countryside stopping only at tiny towns at night and spending the rest of the day talking and enjoying the natural beauty around us. That was a few years ago and we hope to do another again somewhere else soon
I agree with M1. When he decides he needs a new car, go shopping with him to find out what he wants, then step in and buy it. Otherwise, find out what he’s interested in. Sounds like an experience would be of more value than “things”. Plan a trip, maybe for the two of you.
Buy AAA membership then
You are a good kid for trying to do that for your dad! 🙏🏻👍 Surprised no one commented on that so far..
Op- props for thinking of doing such a nice thing for your dad. But I agree with folks here- don’t fetch change, esp. for someone at that age group. Spend your money on things he values but never got the chance to do. Add to their retirement plan. And whatever you do, don’t waste your $ on lux brand car.
By lux brand I’m referring to Lexus, Mercedes, etc... he paid for my college tuition and got me my first car (when I was still in school). I wanted to buy him something nice now that I’m making good money, but if the guy shows no interest in nicer cars I feel it is a bit of a waste to spent top dollar for one. Would it be so wrong of me to just buy him another CRV? Say 2018 model?
That’s my exact concern... yet at the same time his current car is pushing 220k miles lol. It won’t last much longer.
Please let me have the Rollies.
Agree with M1. Be there when it fails. And I’ll tell you, a10 year old CRV will last many more years, he’s in no hurry. You are a great kid for thinking of him. No need to go against his lifestyle though, just be there to help him how and when he needs it. 👏🏽
My jeep is 14 years old. Sure I could afford a new one. But I like my old jeep. It’s paid for and is still running strong. :)