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My grandmother skipped a grade when she was young and felt she suffered socially for it well into adulthood. When teachers suggested the same for me she told my father (her son) that it would be a huge mistake. They listened to her, and I agree.
I’m smart. Staying with my grade didn’t change that. I graduated high school in the top five of my class, and went on to a top 50 college and then an Ivy League law school. But you know what is far more important for my life? Social skills. The ability to get along with others makes all the difference in 99% of people.
I had a similar experience to your grandmother when I skipped a grade when young. Took me years to get over the trauma and other bad experiences I had from behind from my peers emotionally and socially, even while I excelled intellectually. Some of my challenges with trusting people and being ok with conflict continue today even after years of therapy and deep healing. Also, I wonder if I had just stayed behind if I would have been valedictorian rather than just in the top % of my class. Some things to think about
My mom was an educator and I was given a similar opportunity to skip a grade, and she declined based on her experiences seeing students struggle to connect with their peers in later years. Are there other supplemental learning opps you or the school could help provide? Is the only option to challenge your child moving them up a year?
This was my mom as well but after she learnt from putting my 2 elder siblings in advanced classes/skip classes. Both my brothers are genius and have done exceptionally well professionally, but had to relearn a lot of social skills at college! It all evens out in my mom's experience. My nephew is gifted as well, and my brother has refused to let him join any advanced classes/school/program. He goes to regular public school and then at home they build stuff and make music. There is no right or wrong way (my brother quit his job to be at home dad so he had probably afford this engagement thing) but just academics or scores or even academic engagement (learning different language or maths superstar) are not the path for fulfillment
I was the youngest in my class growing up, and while I did fine academically, I always felt behind socially. That experience made me lean against accelerating my own child.
That’s good to see people do this. In real life I see so many parents get greedy and selfish that they can brag their kid skipped a grade and hop on the opportunity without a single thought of their kids future wellbeing
My son skipped 2nd grade. It is easier to do when they are younger.
This is what he said:
“in my opinion, skipping a grade can make you lose your friends. but when you’re so young, you can quickly make friends again. if you skip a grade, you still get to stay in a class for months, which is plenty of time to make friends. i for one made friends that i still have in middle school and don’t regret it”
He’s currently in 8th grade and is concurrently in HS for math.
i got skipped a grade.. my oldet brother skipped 2.. my son got skipped a grade.. Provide the support, they will be fine.. Dont want to dull the brain..
Don't hold your kid back intellectually. They will be bored to tears. If they can graduate college while most of their peers are graduating high school they will be rewarded for life. You could home school or have them do online college as they get older. They can still join sports and other activities with kids their own age.
Kids who are able to skip grades due to their intellect are perfectly capable of communicating. That's a skill they learn at home and continue to utilize wherever they are. The way the current school system is designed is that kids are held back by the slowest kid in the class and there are not enough teachers to adequately focus on individual needs. If I could homeschool my kids and help them learn everything they need at a faster rate, then I think that's a huge advantage for them. You don't think kids in high school are lonely? You can be surrounded by others, and still be lonely AND bored. If you learn at a younger age, it also doesn't mean you need to start work sooner. If you finished ungrad by the time you were 18, you could take several gap years to travel, relax, and discover what you want to study in college. It just gives you more time to enjoy your youth and get the hard work of school completed sooner.
I skipped and grade and my son did too. I didn't struggle and made new friends and always had friends in the class I had to leave behind. I see my son making more friends in his new class now too. He still plays soccer with his old classmates. If my 2nd shows similar intellectual signs, I'd probably advance him as well.
The customized learning we had when we were kids is not available like it used to be. The curriculum is the same for everyone, even those that are advanced. So if you think your child is going to be bored then skipping seems viable.
My third grader is the same but already a late birthday so already young and ADHD. We tested for gifted and so now he gets supplemental learning opportunities. We also do lots of educational based activities outside of school. Especially STEM since that is his main interest.
My child had a November birthday and missed the cut off so was old for her grade. She skipped sixth grade and started middle school early. It was the right decision for her both educationally and socially. If you don’t accelerate, work with the teachers on a plan to keep your child challenged (and not causing problems) in the classroom.
Your child’s birthday matters more than “skipping”,
What’s your child’s b-day. If they are late in the year, moving up a grade won’t make as much difference socially. My kids are both October birthdays and would be delayed a year based on today’s kindergarten cutoff. I’m glad they were able to start kindergarten at 4YO.
Does your district have any magnet schools that might be an option?