Not work related! Guys on here, how do you show interest in a woman at the gym? What would you expect a woman to do once you have shown interest? Asking for a friend?

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Not a guy, but as a woman who goes to the gym: Make sure to communicate that if the answer is no, you will give her 0 trouble and not affect her comfort and routine at the gym. Try to talk to her towards end of her workout so she can just leave. Maybe introduce yourself, respectfully express interest, offer your number (leaving decision in her hand), wish her a nice day, walk away.

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emphasis on the dont be weird advice

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ask for help with your workout because you are “trying a new machine” and has seen him use it with fluency. BOOM. You’re welcome.

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I hoped that was clearly implied lol

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Your first mistake was asking lawyers for this type of advice.

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Don’t ever interrupt a woman when she’s working out. Maybe a friendly hello or goodbye but I go to the gym with no makeup and a ponytail. I am there to work out, not to flirt.

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Coming from a woman - don’t.

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If you’re a girl wanting to hit on a guy, ask him to help you with something and make small talk. Then you can get into a rhythm of saying hi. He will take it from there if he’s interested. I find guys who have more to lose in dating random girls (like it’s bad for their reputation to be a playboy or they are private) won’t ask you out immediately but will watch and see what kind of person you are before they do.

Give her a subpoena

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Coming from a woman - Try speaking to her like you would any other person. Are you two friendly ? Or have you never spoken to her before ? If you already have a friendship of sorts with her you would likely be able to tell if she’s interested in you. If so, be honest with her & ask her on a date. As for what I would expect a woman to do… nothing. You shouldn’t expect any specific reaction or outcome. If she’s interested she’ll say yes. If she’s not, she will likely say no and maybe try to let you down easy by offering a friendship. In that case, take the hint and don’t be pushy. The gym is a place we want to feel comfortable and safe & she shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable if she isn’t interested.

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Seriously, unless we are talking college years or prior — what (classy/etc.) woman wants to be hit on at the gym and what (worthwhile/classy/etc.) guy hits on a woman at the gym? None of my girlfriends go to the gym to get hit on (they want the opposite/to work out in peace), and guys using the gym as a bar just reeks of desperation imho. I know it happens, but to anyone with any class at all I feel like this comes across as MTV/Jersey Shore level cringe.

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I am a male and could not agree more. Most women go to the gym to work out and not be hit on. If you see a woman at the gym with normal workout attire, hair in a pony tail or bun, no makeup, etc. she is there to work out.

Now, at some gyms, there is a whole other class of women that show up to the gym in the outfits, hair down and on the stair stepper that maybe do it for 2 minutes in really suggestive movements that are there for a whole other reason. You know who you are and I’ll just leave it at that. These women appear to be at the gym for other reasons and quite frankly I would stay away. Find somebody classy…..gym is probably not the place to do it. If you want to introduce yourself at the conclusion of her workout okay but don’t be a creep about it.

Best of Luck - difficult to find decent people today.

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Step 1, stand appx. 5 feet from her. Step 2, aggressively do 5 lb bicep curls as fast as you can while staring into her eyes. Gets a reaction every time

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Lol nooooo

choosing signals - if she is not smiling or trying to make convo with you first, dont bother. you can continue your quest at trader joes, the library, the comedy club, the legal mixer, your friends wedding, a rave, a bar mitzvah, the local barcade, vegas clubs, the local dive bar

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Female perspective: If she finds you attractive she’ll be into your advances. If she doesn’t, she’ll find you creepy. If she isn’t making any eye contact with you or smiling at you, she might not be interested in being approached at the gym.

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1) You don’t.
2) Pepper spray you.

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Just ask her for her number and if she says no then be chill about it. If she says yes then ask her out on a date.

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It depends on the girl, but if she is interested then hopefully she will be excited about everything. If not then at least you know now. You got this! Good luck!

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danger Will Robinson danger

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Are you physically fit? Are you considered attractive? If yes to both just say hi and ask if she wants to meet up sometime.

If no to either one, then give up. You will be labeled creepy.

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Don't. Let them come to you.

I met an ex at the gym. We’re still friends. I just told him he was cute and asked for his number.

You can literally just smile at her. If she's interested, she may smile or nod back. If she's not, she'll ignore you. Also, the girls who go to the gym with a whole face of makeup and perfectly done hair are probably more likely to be on the hunt than those of us with no makeup and a hat pulled low.
Do not interrupt her workout. Do not touch her arm etc to get her attention. A friendly Hi etc after the workout can be fine as well.

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