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Different kinds of stress and it depends on where you are in your life I think. Between 18-22 I deployed 3 times to Iraq as an infantry machine gunner, including fighting in the first battle of Fallujah. I think young people can easily compartmentalize a lot of the stressful situations to where the emotional impact of those experiences might not surface for years. I was rarely stressed from deployment or while in combat in the moment.
Being a delivery lead on an SAP implementation, in my 30's, married with kids is stressful as F. More than anything I experienced as a marine. As a marine a I was with my friends who were like family who would die fighting with me. Now I'm working with acquaintances, half of whom want me to succeed(for their own reasons) and half that could care less.
Agree with every word you said. Semper Fi brother
Deployment
Spent a year in Afghanistan as a staff officer and wasn’t fired at. For the most part, deployment was much tougher, but I did have one project many years back that compared unfavorably in WLB.
Deployment. With anything that you do there the stakes are so much higher and you cannot walk away from your responsibilities like you can in consulting if things get unbearable
Saw combat regularly (2009,2010). Grad school seriously did more damage to my mental and emotional health
I deployed 5 times to combat zones, my body is permanently messed up. My mind will never be the same. However, I don’t want to minimize stress from a normal job. It’s different, but still damaging. The scale tips towards a deployment being worse easily though for obvious reasons.
That's a good take. Thank you for sharing.
In my first in-person meeting (6 mo after starting remotely) with my first manager, she said at dinner, "you must hate me" at dinner in front of our team (referencing her hyper-critical and toxic style. I calmly replied, I appreciated that I knew she was invested in my growth as she was new to managing and not to worry that I've dealt with much greater pressured environments before - working as a Med PL in 2010 and receiving a friend PL who stepped on an IED. I probably did her a disservice by not giving some feedback, but I was slightly surprised she thought this was a hard life for me.
I wore my Ranger tab (pin), wings, and CMB to my PhD defense. My toughest committee member did not know I was retired military and asked what they were and why I wore them.
“I wore them to remind myself that no matter what happens today, I’ve been through worse and I’ve done things you can’t ever take away from me. I also wore them to remind you of who you’re fucking with when you ask shitty questions”
Haha he laughed
Six tours as a combat medic with an airborne infantry unit. I find them hard to compare.
The majority of deployed time was boring AF with some short super intense, super stressful situations. So stressful it’s almost not stressful until after because you don’t have time to think about it.
Corporate stress is more a low key, constant drumbeat of stress. Always just kind of there on the periphery of awareness.
Which is worse? I guess it depends on when you ask me.
I'll take deployment over project work. Project stress can last for weeks at a time. Deployment was mostly routine and boring until it was time to start shooting.
Project
Shocked by some of these responses. No one is trying to literally kill me and my team on a project. Not even close to the same thing as being in combat or similar environment.
Plus day to day stress is about the same.