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So, I decided that path didn’t work. I was having meaningless relations with a lot of girls and as stereotypically awesome that was, it wasn’t real. Everyone has an agenda, girls guys we are all the same. One night stands are full of them. So, I decided to change.
I used to be dishonest, not with girls but with my own morals. I used to be overtly and openly promiscuous (reciprocated) with girls. I was dishonest with the fact that girls could be detached from feeling once they got involved. Once I realized the pain I was causing, I cut off the one girl between all the temporary relations who stuck through it all, knowing how much she put up with. Didn’t cheat, never dated, but realized the pain I was causing.
Now, I am stuck at a crossroads. I am honest (as I always have been, albeit more cruel before because I was inconsiderate) but I find that the more earnest and moral I am, I get the treatment I gave back, at least in my head. I have girls I’m genuinely interested in showing all the right signs and have been dating one I love for over a year, but I can’t trust her. I have caught her being dishonest and think my self esteem is convincing me she is now honest, or she really is. My previous life has made me unsure of what is genuine in scenarios like this. Just don’t know what to do. Have nowhere else to ask. In-between thinking this girl tells me whatever I want to hear when my ears are in range and I’m being foolish to not listen and believe what she’s saying when my ears aren’t in range. Hope you all have better luck than me 🤞
It takes real courage to acknowledge your past behavior and choose a new path. Awareness is always the first step. From there, it’s about recreating the way you want to live and raising your vibration so you naturally attract people who are aligned with that energy. Healing and forgiveness—especially toward yourself—are part of that process. When you’re rooted in the right frequency, the right relationship will come to you. Wishing you clarity and strength on this journey.