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It seems you’re currently working at Deloitte, which suggests you’re doing better financially than at least half of the population. That’s something to acknowledge and be grateful for.
This might be a good time to start truly appreciating what you have and focus on living within your means. Instead of constantly comparing yourself to those who are ahead, try looking at those who are doing less well. That perspective can help you recognize your blessings and find contentment.
There are even sisters out there whose main goal is to get married — and they’re willing to start from very humble beginnings, even living in a shelter, as long as there is mutual respect and a shared vision. Gratitude and grounded expectations go a long way in building a peaceful life.
Thank you for this perspective and reminder
Absolutely have faith. Keep looking, while not ideal (I'm in the same boat as a divorced single father). Don't give up.
Always remember the prophet (phuh) first wife, lady Khadija, married him for his character, akhlaq, and morals and values when he did business with her. He came from nothing respectfully, but she gave him everything. Their story alone should tell you that if a girl is looking at your pocket, she isn't the right one.
Thanks D1
You shouldn't marry a girl who's looking at your pocket and what you have. In the world of seeing videos where some females are asking for outrageous mahrs and some seeing marriage as a means to win freedom or financially get rich.
I came across this video yesterday, which was wholesome. Tells me there's hope
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DK5wj3KsBBy/?igsh=MW44bjhib3o0bW84bQ==
This is a very nice video, thanks for sharing
Have faith in Allah.
I’m single, so take my advice with a grain of salt but like PMO said, being in consulting or at a place like Deloitte means you’re already doing better than most, so try not to stress too much. Just focus on saving and investing while you can. May Allah bring barakah into your life and increase your rizq.
When it comes to a woman contributing financially, there are definitely women out there who are open to that. Personally, I don’t mind whether my wife works or not, but I do care that she has at least a bachelor’s degree.
That said, if she’s working a demanding, high-burnout job, I would expect her to contribute financially. That’s because I’d likely be taking on more responsibilities in other areas of our life, so her financial support would help ease the overall burden.
In a setup like that, I’d probably be doing more household chores than what’s traditionally expected but with the understanding that I’m not killing myself at work or constantly stressed about money.
At the end of the day, that’s what a marriage should be: two people working together to ease each other’s burdens and support one another in whatever way they can.
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Thanks for sharing, OP. I have two brothers and we talk about this often. One thought I’ll give you from the other side of the search is that women are struggling to find professional men that appreciate and respect their professional aspirations as well. Our cultures tend to focus us on super traditional gender roles, but if we’re willing to partner and compromise in ways that support both parties, it’s much easier to have freedom (i.e. could you consider being more supportive at home?). Of course this requires understanding from both sides.
It sucks that the economic conditions have changed so much that it’s safer to have two incomes. We do our best but Allah swt knows best. iA may we all find spouses that are coolness to our eyes
Thank you EYP1! Ameen 🤲
You're not alone. It's an increasing phenomenon that men are either unconsciously or consciously opting out of marriage due to the financial challenges which are very different to a few decades ago. My son is in his late 20s and he wants to get married but has flat out said he doesn't want to have children. But I'm working on him. I might have to give him my house and live in a park.
I would love to learn what specifically is feeling too expensive or difficult to attain?
OP you can choose someone who wants to work, nothing wrong in that no matter what you earn.
You’ll have a wife and dual income household most likely unless you’re planning to marry an uneducated person…
Looks like you’re searching in the wrong pool of women brother. I’m sure there are plenty out there that will support you in raising their own kids. Beyond absurd to think that someone is willing to birth kids but not care for them in 2025..
I can assure you that there are plenty of people that don’t have this mindset. In my friends and family I haven’t heard of this unless the women isn’t educated and doesn’t have a stable career that won’t change the balance much financially…or it’s a joint decision by the couple for them to be a SAHM.