Venting - Husband is out partying until 2am while I am having a miscarriage. To give him some grace, this is the last summer party at a company he has worked for 10+ years. It still feels like an absolute betrayal from him.

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If he knows you’re having a miscarriage and still went out partying he’s trash and you deserve better.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Did you ask him to be there for you? If so, absolutely agree that he’s trash for not supporting you.

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This is absolutely inappropriate. I’m so sorry.
I went through a miscarriage 2 years ago and it was the absolute worst few weeks, arguably months, of my life. Worse than when my father died. Worse than when I went through a breakup of a 10 year relationship.
You need to have a serious talk with your husband about his priorities.

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I’m sorry you are going through this. Big hugs

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Thank you! Feels like the only comfort I am getting is from strangers on an app ❤️

I agree with the above and I think he’s trash for doing this to you….BUT (and I’m only saying this so you can help yourself be a little less angry because you deserve peace) is it possible he’s coping with the loss this way?

We (women) go through the worst of this process but I know my husband was so emotionally invested after 2+ years of infertility, a failed transfer really hurt him. Not knowing anything about you both, I wonder if there’s a small chance he’s coping by trying to feel / do something normal / planned?

To be clear, you should 100% demand better. But WOOF this would be a huge red flag out of left field for me if this type of selfish behavior had never shown before.

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So sorry you are going through this. I would feel betrayed too.
Hope you can give yourself grace and time to heal and I hope he shows up for you better when he gets back.

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Is he texting and calling to check on you?

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Hey, how are you feeling? (Not to do with him, just you - physically/emotionally)

Divorce babe divorce

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