“What are you wearing?” girls annoy me. As I’ve gotten older this is much less common, but I’ve observed over time “what are you wearing” girls to be extremely INSECURE. They have no individualism, and their ability to have a good time is tied to if yall will have matching outfits and aesthetics. They will try to compete too and want you to change your outfit???. Ex. This one girl got upset becuz I was dressed better than her, It’s bizarre. I’m a grown behind adult, I’m not your twin. Be you!

Sometimes I just want to know what the attire is, I went to a concert overdressed because I didn’t know what you’re supposed to wear to one. I get what you’re saying though, next time I go to a concert I’m just going to dress comfortable.

Yall are strict 😂

It’s never that serious. My friends and I go to different events and do different things so the vibe always changes. We ask to understand the vibe so we don’t underdress and we want everyone to look on point, whatever style they may have - not to imitate each other. Only insecure women that don’t want to be out-staged because they solely rely on how good their clothes look act like this.

Qualification: I am a Londoner so we dress better than North Americans anyway. Maybe this is why.

I enjoy the unique styles, aesthetics, and expressions of my friends. I don’t understand girls that want to dress like you, match colors, aesthetics, etc. Maybe it’s just me, but I fair better with girls who have their own individual style, taste, and are confident and secure

We should be friends because I agree with each word.

lol I had this realization as well. Started to find this annoying … but maybe asking what’s the dress attire rather than send me your outfit would be a better conversation piece.

Another take: I’m reading some of these comments and realize some of y’all entertain and are “friends” with people that simply don’t like you. The issues y’all have with these women go far beyond comparing outfits. Why are you not reflecting upon why you have not cut off individuals that are toxic/have bad energy? Or do you enjoy the drama?

Girl, it's always been annoying lol as a 33-year-old woman I dress how I please and I'm confident in what I wear as my friends should be as well.

I will ask what the dress code is for a place but that's a stretch because I have access to Google and reviews so I could figure that out myself.
I don't give a damn what the other people with me are wearing lol if you put on an outfit and you feel confident in it, then rock it - easy as that. It gives off insecure energy IMO lol. Now my only caveat is if we are going to a fine dining restaurant and you show up in sweatpants. We are no longer going out friends at that point lol. Then I might be a little pissed that you didn't try to match the energy of the place lol.

I just tell them to wear what they want. I dress for myself and wear what I want to events, but I’ve noticed the people who ask that tend to be unsure of themselves and think they’ll be judged for not fitting in. Telling them to wear what they want helps to give them a little more confidence to choose something for themselves.

Imitation is a form of flattery. If you got you got it. Lol.

I 100% wholeheartedly agree with this!!! I know someone like this and she was so controlling and insecure. Would cancel plans over outfits and everything. It was draining.

It’s not that serious. My friends can ask me this and it’s fine. It’s not a competition

I am the Shady sage in my crew, I wanted to gather her and wrap it in a few beloveds... but I realized life never misses an opportunity to humble folks.

Let's just say, Life made time to humble her thoroughly🫣

I hear you, but it could be the opposite and simply someone who is a transparent and good communicator. Some women take offense when other women out dress them (we’ve seen plenty of examples online). And that is typically the result of women with different fashion sense that don’t communicate ahead of time what the expected dress code should be. I somewhat think this is an unrealistic take given we have societal dress codes which are clearly communicated (ex: casual, formal, after hours, black tie, etc).

My mom was always that woman upset that her friends never communicated. She did a lot of manual labor so was always dressed down except for when the occasion called for or she knew the women she was with always dressed up. For the ones that only dressed on occasions too, they would always butt heads. Again, she’s not an outlier. As such, me and my sisters grew up self aware and always communicate with each other and our friends to coordinate so no one feels left out or under dressed (if that’s not their desire of course).

All that said, in your specific example it seems that your “friend” does not like you. That is a general character flaw that I’m sure is not limited to wanting to know what you’re wearing…