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Anyone here 40s never married, no kids?
Any guys in LA?
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What they often mean is they don’t need a man, they want one. And if it happens, that’s awesome/ideal, but if it doesn’t, it’s better than being in the wrong relationship.
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I believe that in today's society being a single 30something woman that earns decent money and is reasonably attractive puts you in a great position. You can do whatever you want, treat yourself, have lots of fun... I do understand why many women would only give that freedom & independence away if the alternative (the guy) were really good. There's a lot to lose. Honestly if a woman has very high standards is because she's quite happy alone, lowering the bar and settling is easy. Why would anyone be sorry about that?
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45+ women have it together and don’t complain. But they are Gen X. It’s the 30-45 women they sometimes might not be as put together as guys are looking for.
45+ women have no choices. Back pain is already worse at this age to be able to think about imaginary men. At this age, they are just looking for good men who can take care of them.
I've experienced this mindset many times myself, I find that it always surprises women when they see me look them direct in the eye and say I truly don't care, karma exists to remind us that choices carry consequences and they need to find a sympathetic ear because it's not me.
For too often I see women say they would rather stay single than be in a bad relationship but ignore that a relationship takes two to work and both have to constantly work at it, where I also seeany women under the mistaken idea that they won't have to work at it and things will be easy and just flow. Anybody thinking that is the case for a relationship is lying to themselves and anybody selling it is selling snake oil.
I completely agree with you. Straight to the point.
I think many women like feeling and being independent, but people around us still act as though there’s something wrong with us if we are 30+ and unmarried. It creates a lot of inner conflict for such women. The world has changed a lot, but also it hasn’t.
… And she was the one saying a few days ago about how she encourages her niece to be independent and not depend on a man.
I don’t understand what being independent means to them. And why does anyone have to fully depend on another person as long as they are capable enough to work and take care of themselves? Is being alone independence? It’s so confusing and contradicting. What do women really want?
I used to feel sorry for them before but I stopped paying attention to what they say now.
The catch is that that's not referring to 200 years ago.
It's 50 years ago, where it was the situation for most women, and is the current day experience for women who chose to be SAHMs and then get hit with a divorce.
Today's women have seen their mothers or relatives get thrown into near poverty after a divorce and want to be able to make their own way if they have to.
Am female in late 30s and agree with messages I see here.. it is funny but true