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Maybe I’m reading this wrong but it’s coming off like a mid 30s divorced woman talking down on mid 30s divorced men. Seems a bit hypocritical.
are you for real? You think men who haven’t married by a certain age have irreconcilable issues? Yea. Wouldn’t want to date you either
Glad that once I rejected someone, they then chose to reject me back. Guess the feeling is mutual 😌
OP: “All these men are past their primes and divorced. It’s so annoying.”
Also OP: “I’m 35 and divorced”
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I’m m and older than you op , but not sure why you make that generalization of men older than you . Many of us have it going on . Great dads , great jobs and very sexually experienced . I’ve dated many women in your age range who feel differently than you do
Anyone else wanting to date Partner 1 now? Excellent response and very uplifting. Go for it OP!
Kinda amazing to read a divorced, single mother talking about “issues” men who haven’t married by their thirties must have
Guaranteed it is less baggage than a divorce
Mean something is going on with them, so they often have irreconcilable issues. Also, men over 35 are really just... not very exciting or good in bed anymore. I am growing seriously disinterested in men. The bad part is I'm very attractive and in great shape. I'm in the prime of my life, and I can't find a guy who matches that without being tied down to an ex wife who had a great lawyer. Any other people feel similar?
I’m sure there were many life events during OP’s lifetime to shape this kind of view, but it might be worth being a bit more open minded about things for OP’s own sake. 🤷♂️
Thanks
I think the issue is the people you’re dating and your dating pool selection and not people in or around your age group. You may be in the best shape of your life and stable but that doesn’t mean you’re making great dating decisions..
Yep. Unfortunately the dating pool of quality candidates will continue to decrease as you get older (physically attractive/fit, good career, personality, values, etc).
Men can date women their age or younger but women often do not want to date younger men (not saying it doesn’t happen but not as often). I’m 31, don’t have a desire to have kids, & have given up on finding a partner because I’m not physically attracted to the pool of men my age +. I lift weights 3-4 times a week, value physical and mental fitness and am financially independent. Men my age fail to meet the physical aspects for me. I maybe swiped right on every 100 person on bumble, and even then, there are the factors you listed and the ones I listed above, that have to be considered.
My experience is that men who are attracted to you, but you are not attracted to, will tell you to “settle” or be alone forever. Or they’ll tell you that “you’re not as great as you think you are”. Ignore them - they’re just bitter and offended you don’t want them. Better to be alone than settle.
@OP, this explanation here makes me understand what you are trying to say. But if you compare to what you previously got you would always just keep comparing.
I have gone through the same but instead of the age factor I just feel that it was because that person was skilled and not everyone is in the same league. I have dated younger men than the skillful men I have been with and it's not about age. It's a combination of skill, interest, drive, desire, compatibility, confidence, knowledge, comfort and so many other things.
Not everyone would be as skillfull as those past partners. Or maybe you might get someone more skillfull but the point is not generalizing.
@OP, I am a woman (30 years old, single,and never married) and this post just made me angry. It looks like a targeted post for a certain section of society. What was the whole point of the post?
Anyway I hope a great guy doesn't fall in your trap for those looks.
All the best!
Op no judgement, but you sound like a very bitter and angry person. And unless you change your outlook, are destined to be a single mum the rest of your life. Which is totally fine if that’s the path you want.
You totally speak my mind! My experiences have been very similar to yours. I’m 33F divorced with a child, and as an attractive woman, I generally don’t have a problem in the dating pool, but lot of unmarried men doesn’t want a serious relationship because I have a child. Divorced men tend to have complications too.. and obviously financial stability is a huge factor. I ended up dating someone much older than me (late 40s)
Let’s say those guys have financial obligations in their thirties. Wouldn’t it make more sense to date those guys in their thirties, get through those obligations, then have them free of their obligations and at your same age in your 40s instead of having a guy in his 50s at that point in time? Just trying to figure out the mindset.
Who says u gotta stick with men? 😉. Maybe try daring a female. Who knows. 🔥. As far as your 'delimma', I hear ya. I'm 39 and prefer not to date women with kids. It's like dating the person, the kids and their ex. Just way to much hassle and baggage honestly. As someone who does very well financially, is fit, and has no kids there are just way too many single and younger females out there in the dating pool for me to consider dating someone with one. There have been expectations of course. There are men out there u will fit your expectations, it'll just be tough to meet the one who does.... Which is fine too cause i rather be single than be with someone just 'to be with someone'. You'll be Ok OP.
Exactly. I want what I want, which is a guy who has at least been wanted enough to get married by a certain age, has children over a certain age all while still having virility. I wish more guys over 35 just accepted it and took viagra, but I'd rather continue to date and dump than settle for "some guy"
And honestly, I rather enjoy dating and not compromising. I'm just happy to realize that what I want is different than what society forces on ppl.
Sad you feel that way OP. My encounters are different. 35 Single, no kid. Men I’ve met were single dads but would prefer single moms because they are skeptical about my experience with a child. That’s very understandable, it’s their preference. They are good looking as well, sex were great. They seem very stable emotionally and financially. Also, because they are single at 35+ could have been other various reasons which marriage or kids wasn’t in their priority earlier. Whether marriage happens or not, enjoy life abundantly.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Op need to choose better their men in her life, it seen she like a teenager looking to change the bad boy.
Are you looking to date hot twenty somethings then?