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We are not failing them. Life is about choices and they need to make wise choices that are not selfishly motivated.
When they get back to the basics and believe they are the head and not the tail.
First of all we aren’t failing them, they’re failing themselves…..
THIS! I know a lot of black men who had opportunities handed to them and they still fumbled them. Some of them like to use systemic racism as an an excuse to not try harder. The system was built to fail both black men AND women- yet, here we are.
There’s a lot that goes into it. From the educational perspective, I am a parent of two adolescent boys and 2 girls. Thankfully, I had a non traditional school experience and my husband is an amazing middle school teacher. God has used all of this to enable us to help our boys thrive. However, I know for sure (and their teachers have confirmed) that traditional school structure and policy is set up for typical girls and not boys. Black boys in particular are much more likely to receive negative consequences for normal behavior and that alone sets them up to avoid school settings when they’re no longer forced to be there.
It can be overcome, and many black men do very well, but it’s not usually acknowledged and without advocates, many are left feeling defeated at an early age even if they can’t articulate it.
On a deeper level, what if the underlying issue is that we’ve been set up to succeed faster so we would resent black men and find them undesirable which only contributes to the breakdown of black community at large??
Exactamente!
Success and academic achievement are often discouraged, there’s peer pressure, with more emphasis placed on pursuing women. Additionally, because they are generally less in touch with their emotions, they may lack the emotional intelligence to recognize what is truly beneficial for them. On top of that, there are few role models to help them navigate and overcome the stigmas they face.
That’s such a powerful question, and I think a lot of it comes down to societal pressures and systemic barriers. Women often have to fight for visibility and opportunity, which pushes ambition. For Black men, the hurdles, especially around stereotypes and limited opportunities, can be especially heavy. It’s tough to watch.
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There’s a difference in how many Black mothers who are the primary caregivers for their children raise their sons vs their daughters. Things as simple as packing their adolescent son’s clothes for a vacation while expecting the adolescent daughter to pack for herself, stunt their development and responsibility for self. I can tell when I’ve met a Black man who grew up without his father in his household. There’s a level of coddling and entitlement for just being a man versus an understanding of how to succeed in the workplace and in relationships.