Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

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Yes, and it was the same way in my class at school. I once had a professor say "you're a perfect example of affirmative action at work." Deadass. To my face. White people love to believe that successful Black people must have pulled themselves up by their bootstraps or followed their idea of how to succeed. It's gross

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That’s so awful. I’m sorry, friend

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You don’t shift the idea. You stay and mind your business or leave. Those are your only two options. Prioritize peace, you don’t owe them or anyone else anything. Let them be ignorant.

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Sadly this is true.

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Of course they see us the good ones. It’s just a question of if you can and want to make that work for you. It’s not a question of should that be the case because that answer is obviously a resounding no

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F them. You can’t control what other people think or do. You be you. Be true to yourself and march on

Don't let them affect you. We cannot control how they perceive us. What we can control is how we react.

Oh man. "I feel like a token" hit home. This is the situation I never want to be in again. I feel terrible and miserable. Hang in there!

Move to CA- bigger brown lawyer pool.
Or else stay strong and push on.

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