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Sometimes I want to! But then I think calmly and realize those people are not worth my time!
You're right though. They really aren't. But it does feel food I won't lie to you.
You know what they say... success is the bet revenge! Just the satisfaction of knowing I accomplished my goals despite the naysayers is enough for me.
I should also say I’m addition to my list above, honorable mention to Janice Bowman at Deloitte who told me when I tried to transfer off her team that I may not be meant for the “corporate world” and was trying to force myself into it because I’m Indian and Indian parents want their kids to be doctors and lawyers (paraphrase but almost word for word).
Believe me it was well-deserved. I wouldn’t drop a name like that unless it was.
Sadly, yes. A federal judge told me that I “would only go so far” because I didn’t come from wealth, didn’t have wealthy connections, and had a rough first year.
Somewhat similar, a supervisor at one of my internships told me that I wouldn’t succeed because I didn’t go to a better law school.
I’m not rolling in money and don’t work in BL, but I like to think that I did alright given where I started, the struggles along the way, and the fact that I still have a lot of time left ahead of me in my career.
I’m not strong at standardized tests. When prepping for the LSAT, my scores weren’t that good. The LSAT instructor told me maybe I should reassess and reconsider law. I was insistent that I test poorly on these abstract standardized tests, but in school I excel so I needed a score good enough to get in. He told me LSATs were very good at predicting success and reiterated his recommendation.
After 1L year I ranked in the top 12% and got an invitation to Law Review. I sent him an email letting him know and that I’m grateful the LSATs weren’t as predictive as he said they were.
I meant to email him after I graduated (cum laude) and when I started my first day in big law…
Ugh that is so annoying because we all know the LSAT really has nothing to do with actually practicing law. I hate when people say stuff like that.
i won't lie to you, I totally did. I had an advisor tell me in college that I would never get into law school. So when I finished and passed the bar I sure did call her up to let her know she was wrong about me.
A bottom tier law school grad called me naive for not applying to backup law schools abroad (where he went) because he assumed I wouldn’t make it into the competitive Canadian schools.
I did.
He tried to hire me out of law school lol for peanuts. I went big law for a while instead lol.
WOW. that sounds about right.
Pro
You all had terrible people in your life.
Yes! A solo hired me during undergrad, expecting me to do first year associate work but not explaining exactly what that even entails. He said I did not have the mental capacity to be an attorney. Fast forward a few years later, I'm now a federal clerk waiting for his case to come across my desk😎
My high school teacher said I wouldn’t get into college. My college counselor who was a law school grad told me to come up w back up plans because it probably won’t work out. And many more. Sometimes I look them up to see how they are doing and really really want to but it’s not worth it
Makes me feel much better I’m not alone esp coming from other successful attys
They didn't exactly tell me I wouldn't make it. They just made fun of me for still being in school while all of my other peers have already gotten far into their corporate jobs and had started building families. What can I say, I am my own priority. You really do get more congratulations than encouragements.
Nobody expect me to go to college. I'm a terrible student in the past. With almost passing grades. I am always in the Guidance Office because of school violations and to get disciplined. Never in their wildest dreams would they thought that I can be a lawyer. I didn't say anything or do anything at all. I just drive my Porsche in their faces every now and then.
I'd be lying if I didn't say I solely keep my Facebook just to experience schadenfreude by way of those individuals.
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When I was a child, I wanted to be a Supreme Court Justice, and everyone laughed at me-- but I'm also laughing about it now too. so, jokes on me 😂
When my parents got divorced 10 years ago my dads attorney said in court that his client said that I wasn’t the “graduate school-type”. Currently in BL and earning my MBA so……
Oh my bad. I can DM you.
Sure - plenty of people have doubted me along the way. However, I realized that the “revenge tour” isn’t as fun as it seems and, in many ways, feels like you’re stooping to their level. It’s true what they say - the best revenge is living well.
I agree. Revenge and anger take a personal toll. Best to move on.
Not exactly. I went back to school in my 30s after dropping out at 18 and a relative said “no one ever goes back to school after dropping out.” Here I am, three degrees and a big law job later! No face rubbing necessary.
Wow. Good for you! The best revenge is that you made it happen.
Nope. Or at least not to my face. Although there are some people that really treated me bad before I became a lawyer. They suddenly wanna be friends now, no thank you. I still have the trauma from the bullying.
Ohhhh yes! But in a lowkey manner. I don't want to brag just yet because I know I still have to prove myself as a lawyer.
Highschool friends whom I've since grown detached from who also hated my success. They were the ones who were quite antagonistic. Well, look at me now.