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Does your wife want to be a SAHM? What does she think? Do you even have a wife or is it some weird projection?
Otherwise making $$$$ is a pretty common reason to stay in a high paying career. Whether you spend your money on your wife or on bottle service, that's your choice
If you’re an associate then you don’t even know what that lifestyle is like. I’m assuming you’re a trust fund baby with about 500K per year from your parents at least which is fine and normal. But don’t post about something that is related to earning that salary through working cause that’s only AP and above at McK and equivalent at other BB. For any other company it’ll be partner and given your role it’ll be at least 4 years assuming super fast promotions but don’t expect to see your wife
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As a man, man up. My 93 old grandma is more masculine than this comment
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I want to meet your grandma
I would take a good hard look at your lifestyle in addition to the job you're choosing. You said above that you need to make 500k at a minimum, and that's completely out of pocket.
Having children means a fundamental change to your life, and that's not just giving up what you used to do on the weekends and setting boundaries on your work so that you can be there for your kids. You need to change your budgeting, your expectations for lifestyle, etc.
If you don't want any downgrade in lifestyle, then your wife will likely have to keep working at some point. It's not necessarily better for children to have a parent stay home - again, this is a choice that you're making as a family on where you want to prioritize your time and money. Keep in mind that the longer your wife is out of the workforce the tougher it will be for her to come back in, and might limit her wage growth over her lifetime.
Deciding you want to maximize your earnings as a couple is not emasculating, it's making a decision on the future you want together.
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Your instinct is correct, a man’s job is to provide
Chief
*grunt* Me provide.
Literally the only reason why I work in this field
Meanwhile, my bf doesn't even pay for my coffee🥲
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If he’s 30 and is splitting the check with you on date 2 onwards I think that’s a red flag
Or you could just get a more capable wife
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Trade off is 100% an agreement between the two of you. If you can, I’d recommend working hard for $ now and slow later but be prepared to also be an involved dad while working crazy hours. That’s not something you can compromise.
I’d argue that choosing to carry the weight of 2, when your wife has the ability to work, puts your family at higher financial risk (should anything happen to your job). You’re an upper middle class 9-5er, not a multimillionaire with tons of passive income streams.
The high up you go, the more pressure there is. It takes longer to find a new job if you get impacted. And you’re more likely to be impacted by leadership changes, org changes, location strategy, and other things that are outside of your control. You will also have less time to spend with your family.
My advice, take a comfortable $300-350k job, and your wife also making $200-250k and that’s a much more secure way to maintain $500k a year. And allows more for flexibility for personal spending (I.e., if she wants to give half of her money to her family every paycheck, it’s her money to give).