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Angry black woman trope 🙄 but when a white man does it, he's considered a leader.
It’s worth taking a look at how you are perceived. I’m pretty direct but have not been called mean.
I think it’s also what you are trying to accomplish. If there are folks overstepping boundaries, maybe you can find a different way to manage.
If you are busy and short with people because you are trying to get work done. Then maybe you are overwhelmed or work is not distributed properly.
It’s worth taking a deeper look.
Good luck 🍀
Feedback can be a gift 💝
Thank you.. for the feedback. It boils down to a limited vocabulary for those using that word.. Because when I ask them what did I do they have a difficult time giving me an example of what I did for them to use that word.
Ugh this narrative. 😳🙄
As someone else said, typical. Nothing less than being called aggressive. It’s like they only want us there if we are performing, making them happy or comfortable. Definite microaggressions that should be brought up. This is so damaging and i hate this Smfh. We need to start speaking up…if we remain silent this will continue to happen to us and those that come after us. At some point this needs to be addressed. And worse case scenario the EEOC is always an option 🤌🏾
The EEOC is the direction I use whenever this comes up.. It only is said by a few however I say all the time that everyone I work with are mean.. If I was to complain. I am the only one being singled out.
Have you asked for direct feedback about why smiling would make your communication better or why there's an expectation for you to alter your communication other than their comfort?
Help me to understand how smiling would change the content of the information I've provided?
THANK YOU... YOU NAILED IT!!!
Yes too many times to count..I’m an assistant too..
Now I am overly nice but cursing them to filth inside my head.
I just play the game..they do it all the time
I know it’s frustrating but unfortunately until Black Girl Magic makes the rules of the game..we will always experience this..
I try not to think about it too much and enjoy my life the best way I know how and not focus on work..
I am working between vacations😎
At a previous company I had a problem with this. And it was exacerbated by my black female boss unfortunately.
I received some really good advice once:
“Every opportunity you miss to positively interact with a coworker contributes to a false narrative someone may be building about you.”
And while that’s exhausting, I think black women ultimately have to play a different game in the workplace. And it takes time and skill to develop. I had to really work on my approach, being more intentional about developing relationships, and assuming positive intent with most people and trying to approach issues with their perspective in mind.
I also never speak negatively without it being constructive or gossip so I’m not even associated with those behaviors.
I understand but This is tiring. The black tax and emotional labor is real. I have to educate my white team about this ALL THE TIME. We are the only ones who get told this…so we need to start addressing it for what it is because if we keep bending we will keep being out thru this.
I have been called mean before and I told that manager at the time that what I advised the analyst to do is something that she should’ve been able to do without any problems so all I’m doing is being direct. I don’t think that a smile can do anything if I’m being honest because I work from home it’s not gonna change anything what I would suggest however, without knowing your approach fully is using a better choice of words, so instead of maybe saying, I don’t think you did a good job at this you could instead focus on like how they could’ve done better so you could’ve said you did good at this, but here is an opportunity and then point out the flaw. A lot of the time it’s really not about what you say. It’s a lot of the time about how it’s being said.