Could you compare gay communities/life between NYC and SF?

I’m a single gay male in NYC contemplating a move.

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In my experience, mid-size cities are best when it comes to dating. The bigger the city, the worse it gets.

But I’ve never lived in SF, so can’t speak to it with certainty.

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Nyc, hotter crowd, more diverse career paths, very status oriented, very drug oriented culture, ppl always looking for next best thing, much bigger pool

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I agree with this! Every time I go to SF and open the apps I’m like where are the good looking guys? On the flip side in NYC the 7s are looking for the 9s and the 9s are holding out for the 11s.

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The best kept secret is that the gays in Austin, and Florida (Ft Laud in particular) are 50x better than SF or NYC. Nicer, hotter, more down to earth and more likely to form a lasting relationship.

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Or Philadelphia, Boston, Seattle, Baltimore, etc.

Not Chicago?

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I met a lot of gay monogamous couples when I went to SF on July 4th

My friend and I were shocked

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Sf is better. I live in nyc and tried dating in SF for a few months and it was 100x better.

The guys are less mean in SF. More seem willing to actually date vs just hookup

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I work in NYC now and used to live in SF many years ago. Times were different back then but SF was great. I visited last year and it didn't have thr same feeling. San Francisco has lost its charm.

NYC is properly queer, SF is gay dominant

Can you explain the difference?

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