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I did and I regret it. I’d leave the first time, you spare your mental health and self esteem
Once the trust is gone, it's gone for good. That's it. The rule is easy to remember: One and done!
No. I’d never feel secure in the relationship again.
As an alternative perspective, there would have to be remorse, accountability, and proactive work to rebuild trust in the relationship. Take some time to think about what you need to trust who you’re in a relationship with and also what you need to trust yourself. If this is someone who you’re married or financially entangled with, consider relationship therapy if you do decide to stay with them. Be fully transparent about what you want and expect of them to move forward in or out of a relationship with them.
I believe that every situation and relationship is unique. It is so easy for me to sit here and say I wouldn’t ever give somebody another chance, but in reality I really don’t know what I would do. The real question is how you feel and what can be done if anything to progress the situation into something that will be ok.
Also what were the circumstances? I find most people don't actively ans continously discuss monogamy and what it means for them in the context of their relationship. They just presume both parties should know. Every relationship is going to be different
I urge you to look at it differently. It's not about once a cheater, always a cheater. I would elevate it and use a different language so that you have the right perspective. It's simply about your partner disrespecting you and disrespecting the relationship. Simply DO NOT tolerate disrespect. Cheating, lying, manipulating, and talking wrecklessly to you, any form of violence is a disrespect that should have immediate consequences. If it doesn't stop after you told them the first time, and some give a second time, then you have to end the relationship or change the nature of it. Otherwise, the other party will continue. This also applies to family, friends, and co-workers. Set clear boundaries so that you only entertain fruitful relationships. We often give grace to people who clearly should not receive it, and to be frank, they are demonstrating how little they care by disrespecting us. With that, I would let their actions determine whether they are blessed with a relationship with me and care less about whether they would disrespect (cheat) me again.