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This happened to my daughter in the way way back machine. And my question was ‘where do you think she learned biting’ … ofc at daycare. And ofc we never saw her do it anywhere else. I would gently push back.
Agree! He’s been bitten and scratched before, and we have pictures, and I highly doubt the offender was asked to stay home.. at least it wasn’t mentioned to me
That’s a crazy policy. Kids bite. They have limited communication skills, so it’s going to happen. To ask someone to stay home if it’s the first time is a horrible policy. Our daycare will separate the children if they bite.
While I agree with most of this statement - the OP did say it was their 4 year old. By that point we usually expect their communication skills to be good enough not to bite. It doesn’t sound like OP mentioned anything to contradict that (like a non-verbal child).
All that being said - if it was a pattern I would expect school to want to deal with it. But for a once off? In my mind all that teaches the kid is if they bite they get to stay home and hang out with mom for a day.
I would just bring him Monday, tell them you talked about “no biting” a lot over the weekend (and do that) and if they could please talk to the other student as well. No sense litigating the issue, just move on.
Agree! I had zero intention of litigation lol I just want to at least gently push back because this is ridiculous.
I’d ask if he truly harmed the girl because that could be a different matter. If not, was her parent really complaining or just mentioned it so that they know and educate? Did the parent truly wanted the 4yo to be suspended? My son has been diagnosed with adhd and he is a real objective trouble but he was never ever asked to stay home for a behavior, for four years now. I personally think it is crazy to send home a 4yo for biting. He can’t have intention at this age and there is nothing it helps with, other that making it difficult for you. He might not even remember by now 🤷🏻♂️ Just as other said, kill them with kindness. If they are stubborn, I’d seriously rethink this school. Good luck!
So I want to take him there tomorrow and ask for proof it was unprovoked because they can’t just say he did it and should stay home, no warnings or nothing. Would I be crazy to do that? It’s a small mom & pop Spanish establishment and we’ve been with them a few years and my son loves them but I feel it’s unfair to just ask him to stay home with no proof, and I have to find childcare elsewhere.
Yes, you can ask for the video to see if it was unprovoked and to get clarity, but regardless, they can indeed refuse you and your kid service and ask him to stay home. Life is unfair and it’s best that if you don’t want the inconvenience of finding a new daycare and uprooting your son from a place he loves, that you deal with the situation with tact rather than coming in with an attitude.
It sounds like there may be more to the story if the girl had bitten him first but wait to see the evidence and if the video supports what your son told you, then be gracious and ask that he be able to attend since you’ve talked to him about biting and it wasn’t an unprovoked incident.
Do they have a policy in place for this? I know it’s a small place but I don’t think you should have to keep your kid home regardless of what happened. Kids bite so unless there is some concerning pattern or a policy of making kids stay home this seems ridiculous? I’d probably go and ask to see the video, but be prepared to not be able to leave your kid there just in case.
Your child was punched and bit until blood was drawn!?! You have a bigger daycare problem than having your kid stay home for a day.
I'd ask for their policy on biting 2- ask for a recording, 3- your son may be lying to get out of trouble or they are taking the easy way out and didn't ask too many questions 4- don't be so busy that you forget to slow down when there are signs of trouble. You lost a lot of leverage in not staying to investigate the cause or ask for information on Friday. And your banking on them taking him Monday, which they already said that they would not do.
Are they a publicly licensed daycare? If you don't get the answers you want, you might be able to ask the licensing agent if they are (but I'm not sure how your state runs). Even our private daycares are regulated by the state entities. Good luck. Ours had this same issue and it boiled down to needing to add more cameras since the issue kept happening.
Their policy is if issues happens and gets reported, the child stays home a day. I couldn’t wait to talk because my littlest was sick and I had to get to her doc appointment. They are a licensed daycare but only use ring cameras, which only records for a few secs when motion is detected. I’m almost 80% certain they won’t have a recording and say they’re going off the 1-day suspension because my son and the girl in question both confirmed that he indeed bit her.
The policy seems crazy. It happens. Don’t be embarrassed. He’s just four. My son got bit at public TK and nothing happened. I didn’t even talk to the mom because I felt like she must have been stressed about it.
Can we get an update??
Is it on camera??? Why weren't the staff watching the children???