Guys, I am a desi getting married in 9 months and would like to ask the brothers and sisters who got married recently in the US or back home. What was your mehr? There seem to be very different numbers based on culture and geography. Trying to get more data points for better understanding.

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I think it was the minimum for me, I believe $100.
Back home my family tradition was to do a plot of land, zameen, gold, cash and I refused to partake

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Desi married in US. My parents live in India, wife’s live in US. I gave one paycheck - $2500 at the time. It was controversial on my wife’s side coz they preferred minimum $5000. I’ve heard anywhere between $10k - $50k. Grooms taking loans to afford mahr. So much societal pressure.

To top it off, my dad wanted mahr to be publicized during nikah which is not the norm here. Somehow managed to convince him. My wife was supportive of the mahr amount so FIL cudn’t do much. Unlike most desi weddings, I bore most of the costs, including accommodation for my family, honeymoon to Turkey. My parents threw another Walima when we visited India later that year at their own expense.

Alhamdullilah, happily married with 2 kids now!

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Not married, but I know a couple who got married and the mahr was 5k (early 2000’s). The husband covered the wedding costs as well.

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I’m not really sure if it’s common for the guy to cover wedding costs. I think it varies these days, based on each family’s financial situation and what the family/couple want, events-wise.

In the example I gave, the husband/family was in a better place financially than the wife/family and that was the agreement they came to.

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My best friend got married and hers was $1000. In my community it’s become more of a symbolic gesture than asking for a large amount

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Following but not getting married anytime soon

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