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Get a haircut from a salon and hit the gym.
Grey sweats always work for me the ladies know why lol
Sorry about the break up man! Hope you find your way out of the darkness but it looks like you're already trying to get out if it and that's awesome. Did you ever wear blazers? Maybe invest in some nice blazers and pair them with your former attires instead of getting a whole new wardrobe.
Sorry about the breakup, especially given the circumstances you have to work with moving forward. I think half of style is how you wear it. If you want to change your style, clothes are one half, your soul is the other. I hope you take care of the latter too while you’re making this change.
With that said, there’s a few routes you can go on clothing. Smart casual has a lot of room for elevation. I like wearing sweaters, sweaters under workshirts, turtlenecks. There’s a lot of options, it’s more important that it fits well.
If you really tryi to get her attention trust me on this one
Hope you give yourself some time to grief. I would think that your dressing should reflect your “new” personality. Possibly a nice vest, blazer, belt etc that would go with your current wardrobe
Gotta knock down her friends bro. Trojan Horse.
You could get a new hairstyle, pierce your ears, or start wearing pieces like chains or watches. Small changes that alter your whole look
Making small changes is a great call but please do not pierce your ears
I totally understand the urge to change your style after a breakup, but I’d be careful about doing a staunch change. Sometimes when the change is too drastic, it can come off like you’re trying a little too hard, and that can actually draw the wrong kind of attention (especially from your ex who will notice it and laugh).
You want people to notice your growth, not question your stability. A more thoughtful shift like trying new colors, fits, or pieces that still feel like you is important. Aim for a glow up not a seismic shift in identity.
Sorry to hear about your breakup!
I would start by clarifying what exactly do you mean by "showing up differently and as a completely different person"?
Get specific about that and also think about the reasons <why> you want to do that. There´s no right/wrong, you just want to make sure you like your reasons for it.
Once you know what would "different" look & feel for you, then you'll have a clearer picture as to how to get there.
If you´d like to further chat about this, feel free to message me. Im a life coach & a personal stylist, happy to offer some additional ideas.
All the best :)
I would start by just breathing
Hit the gym hard, change the cut of your formal wear (maybe more European to go with the new body) and ignore her. Find a younger hotter person outside of the office and just get back on the horse…maybe not the right one but the “right now” one. You’ve got this.
Exercise. Eat good food & avoid too many sugars. Find some style influencers and take inspiration from their style.
Take up a new hobby - learn to guitar, MMA, join a rec league for a sport, etc and do your best to wipe the ex out of your memory.
These changes will help you level up