How many bedtimes do you miss every week? My rule is only 1, but work is a little out of my control lately.

Oh man. This is such a sad question. But in case it helps, my experience was that I missed much more than 1-2 with my first. A bit less with my 2nd (b/c of COVID). They’re 5 and 7 now and I do still miss some bedtimes (2-3 a week maybe?). Also I am EXTREMELY close with both of them, and everything is ok. (I have to say that because I know how scared I was about how my work would impact things.) Literally- so close!

I get a few comments from my older one every once in a while about how much I work, but on the whole, I think they are getting the point about mommy working really hard for our family, but also prioritizing them more than anything.

All that being said - if the boundary setting is what you need for you/your family , I totally applaud that. Glad that’s becoming easier to do.

0 unless I’m traveling, and I’m in big law. I leave the office early when I go in, and am home to cook dinner and enjoy family time before bed time then work more. My oldest is 13, and I was an associate back then and was still able to do that. I dropped her off and picked her up from school every day too once she started kindergarten. I worked from my laptop in the pickup line. Now my husband stays at home. Before I took on a ton of firm management responsibilities I billed 10-14 hours a day. I still work 12 hours a day at least, just not as much billable.

Most weeks I don’t miss any, but some weeks I miss up to 2.

Boundaries are important. Enforce them.

None, but I work from home and also work after they go to bed pretty consistently.

I always worked long hours and traveled about 3 weeks a month for 1-2 nights each trip. My kids are in their twenties; both had great challenges and are hard workers who always have bosses that adore them. They say they don’t want to work as hard as I have, but they have excellent work ethics. I am still their go-to for most things, even though my husband logged more story times than I did. My mom worked as well, and she and I are still very close. Live with the guilt and keep going!!

Sometimes I go through very periods where I miss multiple in a week, but even when I’m busy I can usually swing it. I block 5-8pm in my calendar - If a client asks for a call during that window then fine, but it’s blocked so that if someone internally looks at my status or is trying to organize a call during that window it shows that I am busy, so generally I can avoid it.

I’m pretty upfront internally with anyone that I’m working with if I’m going to be offline to pick up my kid and will be back online at [x] pm (and then I am). I pretty much always work after my kid goes to sleep. Definitely still billing more than 8 hours a day on a regular basis.

One or two. Don't feel bad.