I feel like I can trust no one at my firm… is this normal

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Yes.

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Normal but not ideal

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It feels normal at my firm with the majority of folks I interact with. Folks generally only ask questions about how you're doing to find out if you have capacity for more work ("got any weekend plans?" etc). However, there are a handful of folks I trust and who are genuine that help balance it out.

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This exactly… sigh

This is common but not an ideal working environment.

Managers often encourage competition by pitting associates against each other. If they criticize other associates in front of you, they are criticizing you behind your back.

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Sad that a lot of ppl are agreeing to this.

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Unfortunately, it just gets worse. I have a mentor that’s a new partner (and already on her way to be a business generator). People ask about matters/clients and then have outright tried to steal them. Good people can be hard to find but they’re out there.

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Unfortunate, indeed. Please stay on the good people side.

What? No, absolutely not normal. NO ONE is not normal. You should have one or two people you can trust.

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