I feel like I'm drowing. I'm getting out but have to do it safely. I'm with a white narcissistic bigot. Who thinks he's for black people, but his words express differently. He thinks I make up things he says (he is drunk all day every day to remember) to start an argument, but the truth is that he doesn't or doesn't want to remember the hurtful things that come out his mouth.

He bought an American flag and after everything that has happened the past year I don't want that in my home. We argue

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I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. You’re a beautiful and strong person and I want to ensure that your mental health and physical health is good but IMO you need to leave him. That verbal abuse could escalate quickly and potentially violently especially if he’s drinking like that. Try to do these things:
1) Get as much sunlight as possible (reduce anxiety/stress)
2) Document everything his unseasoned ass does (video if possible too/texts)
3) Distance yourself from him by visiting family/friends
4) Tell your close family and friends to vent to them about your toxic environment
5) Start to do things that you enjoy to help boost your mood (workouts, walks, hanging out w/friends, etc)

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about what has happened recently (i.e. affirmative action) and his response is, "I hope Trump wins, so "my people" have a hard time getting jobs." He refuses to believe he said that. I ask ok what did you say then but he has no answer. He admits to saying, "I hope Trump wins" but apparently draws a blank about what he said after yet he k ow it wasn't what that"

I’m confused. Is this a work question? Or marital problem question?

No question, just venting :)

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Everyone is here to vent… might have better luck screaming into a pillow.

Which is what I did! 🤨

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