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I will give you a tip. In a work context both men and women are colleagues and there isnt much that you or they say or do that is gender specific. Just stop interacting with the as women specifically. Treat them as you would a man and automatically you will stop giving off weird vibes if any.
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There’s just a lot of tension in between upper middle class whites and Indians right now
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Don’t overthink and overreact.Desi women must know about all white women ? That idea is incredibly absurd. And you are upset they are asking you about food without batting their eyelashes or something ? You have severe inferiority complex or have extremely limited interaction with the opposite sex of other races.
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What an insensitive and bizarre take. We are in a professional workplace, so your words and expressions matter. People should be mindful on how they come across and how they make other people feel (this goes for everyone, not just white people or desi people).
Desi people have such a bad case of “brush it under the rug” 🙄 and just because you don’t care about it doesn’t mean that OP has severe inferiority complex. That’s so random.
OP, I don’t have a clear answer for you because it feels like a lose-lose situation for you- if you give them the same energy, it might confirming the the bias they already had against you. And if you ignore it, you will continue to suffer.
If I was in your situation, I’d just avoid them if I can. If it’s someone I work with or my boss, I might just suck it up. Whatever you do, just make sure you have tact.
May be I misread OPs post—I think OP is a woman asking fellow desi women for their take on what she’s feeling/experiencing and how to navigate it.
My apologies OP if you are a woman and I interpreted your question incorrectly. I will give you the honest truth. You will never be as comfortable with any group as you will with people in your own culture. Its just nature. Imagine you are with your group of desi girlfriends and one of the brings a white woman along. You all are going to ofcourse be nice and polite and try to engage her but there is just not the same level of comfort than if she had bought another desi woman. So first, accept that fact that you will never truly belong. But that doesnt mean you have to feel awkward all the time. Try to engage as much as you can and if conversations dont flow naturally then they dont. No big deal. This is more common than you think. Important thing is to not withdraw and stop engaging. You may eventually make one or two good friends. But dont put any pressure on yourself or you will make it awkward for yourself and them.
C2: Why is that?