I just transitioned from a traveling consulting model to a non-travel model. Been on the road for 1.5 years and my only daughter just turned 3 so half of her life I was on the road. She used to be...

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She’s three, dude. One tickle-fight and the whole thing turns around.

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Try to get more time with your daughter without your spouse. The more you two bond - she’ll gradually get more attached to you. Hope this works for you.

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A few points:
1) they go through mommy/daddy phases. It sucks when you’re not the favored parent, but just wait, it will be your turn again soon.

2) my dad was physically present but emotionally gone. Sleeping in the same house 7 nights per week isn’t necessary to be a good dad, but being emotionally there is. Try FaceTime and use the silly masks you can wear (the panda, the monkey, etc).

3) the key in our family is expectations for my wife and my kids. Dad travels. It’s just the way it is. My wife is fully bought in and does not resent me for it. But when I’m home, I’m fully present and plugged in. It seems to work well. But even on local engagements I don’t get home before 9 and I leave again at 5:30...just the way it is.

Rough time but hang in there

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Agree with this 100%. Correlation is not causation. I have been on a local project for a year... my kid transitions between mommy and daddy like every other month. Did the same when I was on the road

New dad here... what’re these masks?

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^I’ve been a dad for 11 years. What are these masks?

...really close to me but now she’s super attached to my spouse, and I can tell she isn’t as close or attached to me. It breaks me from the inside. Now that I wont be traveling anymore, what all can I do to re-establish that father-daughter bond?

I have 3 kids, oldest is 5. At any given time, each is individually more of a mommy’s or daddy’s boy/girl. It ebbs and flows. Maybe you missed a few flows your way, but it’ll even out. Just be there and don't sweat it.

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