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Hello Everyone,
I am a fresher with over 9+ months of experience as a Data Engineer at Tata Consultancy .
I just needed some suggestions from you experienced folks.🙏
In my current project my colleagues have over 6+ years of experience and are not very supportive and scold me for unnecessary reasons, which is effecting my mental health.😔
Also I am not getting to learn anything.
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I’ll be honest, it’s hard to understand everything you have written but in general, I see two possibilities. 1) he’s avoidant and conversations are perceived as conflict and that scares him. If so, unless he starts to learn how to feel comfortable on being uncomfortable problems will never be fully addressed. 2) he’s giving you the silent treatment as a punishment. That’s bad and really harmful as this pettiness game gets out of hand really quickly and resentment grows from it. I don’t know how you bring the conversation to the table, but accusations are usually very inflammatory ways to approach anyone and very often shuts people down. I statements, speaking of how things make you feel and bringing specific expectations should make the conversation go easier.
It is not a normal scenario, would suggest blocking some time by force / mutual consent and then try and discuss all these points. I'm sure if one or two such sessions happens, the things will be sorted or you may continue to have quality committed time for some important discussion
My first husband was like this. We divorced after 5 years though we were young when we married. He wouldn’t go to counseling