I recently found a bully from my first ever job 10 years ago on LinkedIn. I was 16 at the time and she would have been in her mid 20s. I was an extreme people pleaser back then and was too shy to mention anything to my manager being new to the job. Too shy to stand up for myself.

Here’s one scenario I remember:
*me folding clothes with another colleague*
*she walks past us and says “bye!”
*me happy because maybe the other times were just a “misunderstanding” - replies back with a “bye! :)”

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Personally, I would just let it go. I don’t care for people like that. Nor do I have anything to say to someone who I didn’t get along with lol. But that’s just me.

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I would just let it go. First, you never know what she was going through in life at that point and I know that’s no excuse for bad behavior, but she was very young. She could be completely different now and hopefully realized her mistakes. Most importantly, you need to let it go for yourself. Someone once told me as long as you let the abuser make you feel like that. They still have control over you. Take back your control.

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*her looking me dead in the eyes and replying back with “no one was talking to you” rolls eyes, continues to walk away*

Anyways, seeing her bothered me because she’s been posting about women empowerment on LinkedIn and is a huge advocate for it. Go figure I guess?

I’m writing here just to vent. Would it be worth reaching out to her on LinkedIn to see why the bullying started happening in the first place or just let it go? She seems to be doing well professionally and I guess it’s just odd to see someone who was so vile do well in life 😭

No, she'll most likely just gaslight you about it. Just move on and be better than her so others don't have to experience that.

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Learn from your past. Turn the situation around and embrace the awkwardness of youth, how easily teens were threatened by the smallest insecurity trigger, and channel the recycled negative energy into positive affirmation that you are now an adult, you are confident, capable, and can rationally meet adversity with a mature and open mind. Bullies are everywhere but you can choose how you deal with them at little cost to you.

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