I was talking with an Asian mentee who told me that he has experienced the following microagression during job interviews: "You speak English soooo well!" Any suggestions about how he can respond?

likesmart
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Thanks, you too.

likefunny

I love this, but the interviewer would probably rate him poorly. 😂

like

The best response I’ve heard for these types of aggressions is ‘what do you mean by that?’, said in a very calm way. The person will then have to really reflect and will likely fluster and understand how that is inappropriate.

like

Or in hindsight, ‘what did you mean by I speak English so well, im trying to understand?’

like

First generation American. My first language is Spanish. I have an accent. People are always surprised that I went to college. My manager was surprise when she heard my husband had a good job. Best microagression comment. I don’t see color. Sorry that you are color blind to my brown skin.

Related Posts

Hey guys, I have the first short 15-minutes call with a product guy from Hugging Face today wherein he is likely going to take a guess at what roles I could be suitable for. I had applied for Post-Sale Machine Learning solutions Engineer. Is there anyone who’s gone through the process for a similar role at similar organisations or best case scenario would be if anyone has gone through the process with HF.
I have been working for a year and am doubtful if I’m mature enough for the role. Help lol

like

Is it worth applying for a position with a firm you are directly adverse to on a matter or will conflicts definitely keep you from joining?

like

I am a UX designer who has completed a Google certification program along with a resume and professional portfolio. However, I’ve struggled to find a job (remote). Any advice or resources I could use? Or are there any employers currently hiring and are interested? I’d be happy to hear from you.

like

Does reaching out to HR at consulting firms improve my chances of getting a first interview? If so, how should I approach that?

like

Is any from valueLabs? I have cleared 2 technical rounds there and they have scheduled 3rd round which is going to be a coding round taken by manger. Any idea what type of problems they may ask ? I am interviewing for automation tester position with java/ python

like

Best recruiters for strategy/ planning. Go.

like

Any tips or advice for the Amazon Senior Program Manager Interview? This is the hiring manager zoom interview. I am excited and preparing as much as I can.

like

Got to a modeling round for a PE Firm and it’s later today. Really like the people but not a big fan of the investment strategy. Wondering if withdrawing from the process right now would hurt my relationship with the HH’s?

I’m working with them for a few firms I’m way more interested in but aren’t kicking off for the next week or two. Should I just do the model test and withdraw, or would beforehand work as well? Any insight would be helpful

like

Hello everyone. I’m currently interviewing with Oracle for a program director role and I’m nervous. Any tips or pointers you guys can help me with to secure this role would be certainly appreciated.

Thank you Oracle

like

What aspects would you look at when interviewing a person for a Manager position?

like

Anyone willing to refer to Tesla? I am applying for the Associate Product Manager position. Please let me know, thank you!

like

Hi Fishes,

I have received an offer of 28 LPA for Lead I - Software Developer position at UST Global. I would be joining Bangalore location.

I am Appian Developer with 6 years of experience. Since I did not get to interact with any UST employees (other than HR) during the interview process, could anyone tell me more about the company and its culture?

PS: Would like to connect with Appian professionals working there, if possible.

like
like

Does Deloitte look a lot better than ACN on b-school apps? Debating if I should take the offer to switch and then apply after.

funnylike

Got flaked on twice in a span of 3 hours by a recruiter.

like

anyone have any insight in Apple's work culture, workloads balance and benefits in genera? i'm in interviews with them right now + Twitter Apple

likeuplifting

Regarding these interviews: I’ve smoked pot exactly once, about 15 years ago. Do no other drugs. If I disclose that when I ask, is that a problem?

How do you deal with an HR that ghosts you after 3 interviews that went really well? I landed an offer at Deloitte as a sr. consultant, and then negotiated for a managerial role. I was told all interviewers were really happy with me so she would be glad to arrange a reevaluation for the new role(I was interviewed by 2 Sr. Managers & an MD for Sr. Consultant role and will have to take another round with a partner for the managerial position). I tried following up thrice after, no response.

like

I currently make 78k at Lockheed but I’m not doing what I’d like to be doing and i felt stuck and after many conversations with my manager and no solution in sight, I started applying elsewhere. I just recently got an offer from a smaller AI company for 95k that I plan to accept. I’m happy to make the jump, I just don’t know how my manager/coworkers will react when I tell them I’m leaving.

likeuplifting

What is the interview process for Front end Developer experienced ?Do they ask DSA too ?

like

More Posts

like

Does studying for top consulting firms’ case interviews help in any way for interviews with other firms (e.g., FAANG case interviews) ?

like

What’s the best projectors for a home theatre room setup?

like

How hard is it to get into an investment bank for risk? Doing market risk related work (FRM)? And what kind of salary would you be looking at from entry to associate (senior) level ?

like

Hi Fishers

Need 11 likes to get DM enable.

Thanks in advance

like

Looking for a Database Manager role. Are there any level B/7 roles available for NCR region?

like

I stopped contributing to my 401K for the last three months in order to pay off credit card debt. I am 28 and have about 68K in my 401K. Was this a smart decision? I want to get out of debt as quickly as possible and I have no student loans or car debt.

like

What's the quickest way to market a property for rent other than listing it on MLS and all the websites? Should I list on Craigslist and marketplace too? Anything else I can do?

like

Hi ,

Can someone refer me in Citibank for mainframe developer

Looking for better and competitive compensation according to the industry standard in delhi NCR region either in core IT industry or IT Consulting.

Current CTC - 250000
Expected CTC - 400000

Suggest me please.

like

Can anyone please tell me Inhand salary pm, I have this offer from LTI

Post Photo
like

Any ideas for side gigs I can start online? Do drop shipping websites work? YouTube automation channel etc? Any other ideas welcome

like

Accenture can you guys go back to Marriott and fix their customer service please I've been on hold for 30 minutes and I still have missing nights

likefunny

Hi Sharks, needs some insights. Currently am waiting for an official offer from Deloitte and Fractal as Data Scientist. I have 5 years of experience in Ai/ML, Python, Sql, AWS and GCP. Current CTC of 21 lakh (18+3). How much hike can I expect? Background of btech and MBA. Also among the two what would be a better choice, keeping aside the salary part? Deloitte Fractal

like

Anyone know Deloitte core business group in Deloitte consulting LLP?

Salary range, business outlook of this group amid layoffs and green card initiation timeline?

Post Photo

What’s the best agency for social media/influencer marketing? Looking for a change!

like

Any update on the ratings and Lead finalized report ?

like

Additional Posts in The DE&I Depot

like

What do you all suggest for impactful and meaningful DE&I goal for leadership level?

like

Venting a bit: Are you finding DEI groups at work overrun with allies. Is there also an increase in celebrating said allies? Is it just me?

Most of the groups I'm in (esp. event teams) are being taken over by allies wanting to do what they think should be done to 'celebrate' whatever topic the month is, usually speaking over marginalized coworkers and rarely consulting with them. It seems like the only time this doesn't happen is for gay (usually yt) men or BHM. I'm just feeling so...minimized.

When you encounter an unfamiliar name, do you laugh or say it's hard to pronounce? Here's what you can do instead.

Post Photo
likesmart

Hello! I'm looking for DEI director or DEI program manager position that is remote. I'm currently a director of equity and multicultural outreach right now.

How did you all get into the DEI space professionally? I’m doing a lot of work internally at my firm and spent a lot of time in my masters program focusing on DEI and want to do DEI work full time. Looking for any guidance in making the transition from traditional consulting.

What would you advise in this case?

Post Photo
like

Something about using the phrase “commentating” regarding Tulsa or the anniversary of George Floyd’s murder feels wrong. Am I off, or should I suggest design team revise this copy?

like

I recently changed my last name. When my husband and I got married over 20 years ago we talked about what legacy we would leave it children... Would it be in the form of a company, a brand, or what? We came up with a name that was the second half of my first meme combined with the second half of his first name. We didn't yet know how we were gonna use it... But we had named our legacy. Over the past couple years, as things like 23 and me have become more popular, we started...cont'd

like

What are some racial/gender/age based micro aggressions you’ve experienced in the workplace?

like

TRUE OR FALSE? In your workplace, raising concerns about unfair treatment, discrimination, or harassment tends to make things worse for the person raising a concern and put that person’s opportunities, role, reputation, and/or job at risk.

Post Photo
like

Do you know what "BIPOC" means? What about "LGBTQ"? What about "mysogynoir"? As a leader, it's your job to know. Get thee to google, my friends! 🙂

Post Photo
likeuplifting

You CAN be that leader that people want to work with. 1st, self assessment is required. Be honest: As a leader,have you engaged in/accepted Attribution Bias with a dash of gender &/or race bias? (See the pic) This is something we all need to be aware of as we lead our teams, provide performance feedback, & model the behaviors we'd like to see more of on our teams. Be on the lookout for Attribution Bias in yourself & on your team. It's a hindrance to creating a high-performing, inclusive culture.

Post Photo
likesmart

Hello fishes, Do you have suggestions on Diversity & Inclusion activities that can be done virtually with a group? I found few ideas in google but would love to hear about any experiences and suggestions.

like

Just got off the phone with a recruiter who asked me what year I graduated from my MBA program and college and effectively told me I was too old for the role. I do have the 1 year of experience they asked for in the job in question. It's just that I have all this other experience in things unrelated to the role or things I want to deemphasize in my next role. Is there anything I can do? I only list the last 8 years of experience (as it's most relevant) and don't have my graduation years listed.

like

Is anyone wondering what life will really be like for all the new Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion executives that many companies are hiring and bragging about now? I wonder how much power they will actually have to effect change. I wonder how long the trend will last.

like

Are you responsible for giving performance feedback? Avoid giving personality based feedback. Examples include telling an Asian person they are too quiet/shy or telling a Black person they are agressive/abrasive. DO NOT DO THIS. It clearly represents bias in Performance Management. Performance feedback should be tied to business outcomes with clear examples of what the person does well + how they can improve.

likesmartfunny

This is a safe, judgement-free,anonymous forum for seniors, leads, managers, partners, & principals to ask questions & get support around workplace situations which may have a DE&I component. This is also a place where leaders can learn more about DE&I without fear of asking “the wrong” question or saying something which will get them labeled as a “racist” “ignorant” or “insensitive” in the workplace. If you are providing answers/info, be informative & kind to everyone who posts questions here.

Post Photo
like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal