I see so many Muslims really rush to get married. Yes, please get married when your time is right but dont rush to marry the wrong person.

Because one day, you’ll look back at yourself who wanted to rush into marriage and have a wake up call to the life you live. And those so called “lonely” days, look better than where you’ve landed yourself in the present.

Just a reminder. Don’t push aside your morals and what you’re looking for just to have a life which may be worse than where you are now

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Here is my POV and I am married for 15+ years.

Don't tie getting married to an age. Successful marriage depends on the two people's compatibility - having the same values help, being ready for marriage mentally, having the mindset to compromise - it will not always be 50-50. Don't keep score in a marriage, communicate with each other, value and respect the spouse. And once in a relationship, you still need to work on it to keep it alive. Don't take your relationship for granted. Keep 3rd parties including you families out of your marriage (this means no interference). Even if you disagree with your spouse, try to empathize and understand their POV, respect their feelings. So it isn't about age, imho.

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And I should add, you will fight, have ups and downs in your marriage. Don't think of giving up every time things get tough. I can share that there has been days I thought life would be easier had i not gotten married but i also can't imagine my life without my husband, who is also now my best friend. Just sharing some realities of that I have faced.

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Why is there so much stigma on broken engagements and divorce (particularly without kids)? I think people who know they shouldn’t be together anymore sticking it out is a problem in our society.

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It’s cultural and generational. The previous generation couldn’t leave terrible marriages even if they wanted to, whereas the current generation is much more willing to do so. The stigma comes from a place of envy.

At the same time, dont delay getting married to a later age/stage of life either. It is ideal to be married by the time you are 25. Islam encourages early marriage as it shields us from various fitnahs. It also gets incredibly hard to find a compatible spouse as one starts nearing the 30s.

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I agree on that the older you get the harder it is to find a spouse. So many of my friends are not able to get married or find someone. At the same time, I have friends now divorced because they got married before 25.

It’s a balance. And only Allah swa can help us find what’s best for us

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Yes, as a whole, we’re kind of backwards and old school community, but why do you care so much lol

Let everyone do what they want to do bruh

Lol, this is a forum for discussion.

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