I’m experiencing something that’s messing with my mind. I’m a woman of Asian origins in a senior role. Im not a wall flower. I have opinions, perspectives, ideas. I have a Male colleague who I’m starting to feel like he’s bullying me in some ways. Raised voice. Interrupting. He told me that I committed a micro aggression against him. It’s like his desired response is for someone (me) to just listen to what he says and have no response. Because any/all of my responses are met with negativity

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The fact that you lead by pointing out you are an outspoken Asian woman indicates you think one or more of those facts are cause for this guy's problem. If that is the case, I'm sure there's a "president" above you that needs to be aware of a potential lawsuit or lawsuits for a hostile workplace. If this guy is just a blowhard, insecure in his own competency, you can give him a gentle warning that if he doesn't stop his bully tactics and negativity, especially around your employees, you will file a complaint with higher ups.

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We are the same level. Should be peers. He also contributes nothing but argues a lot. He’s making me extremely uncomfortable.

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Ask him what the micro aggression was. These terms shouldn’t be tossed around lightly and if he felt comfortable telling you that you committed one, he should tell you what it is.

Also, next time he interrupts, let him rant and then calmly go back to the point you were making. Letting someone speak is not the same as listening to him but this way he can’t get mad that you didn’t permit him to say his piece.

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When he accuses you of microaggressions, calmly ask for clarification and explain your perspective. Talk to other colleagues especially those who might have witnessed the bullying behavior. You might find yourself surrounded by a supportive team who can help you navigate this situation. I feel like with that attitude you're not the only one they're rubbing the wrong way.

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