I’m having issues with not being political enough. When I sense a partner is crossing a line, I’m not completely deferential. I make my point ever so slightly and then add a fake deferential piece in there. I find that this ruffles partner egos in my group. How do you handle? Is what I’m doing not the right approach?

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I have the exact same issue. It's probably why we are lawyers in the first place. I am trying to learn to be a bit more political for my own sake, but also, most partners do value associate opinions. If your point of view offends partners, they have a very fragile ego.

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Don’t ruffle feathers. Literally nobody cares what you think on any hot button topic. Just bill, get good at your practice, and make that money.

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What do you mean by “crossing a line”?

Yeah, I was sure. They have a track record of punishing in this way if they feel you didn’t meet their expectations in another way. Often these expectations were uncommunicated and not easy to discern as they vary between partners.

I’m the same. Also a litgator?

I wanted to be but I’m in a corporate specialist group haha

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I was initially too meek and did not establish boundaries, which led to increasingly unreasonable demands and staffed with all if the toxic personalities in the group. I eventually decided not to tolerate further toxicity, though that came with consequences. I believe establishing boundaries earlier would have been better. I was let go but landed well.

Want to get political? Put your money where your mouth is, quit big law and get involved in politics.

You’re reading too literally. I don’t actually mean politics, I mean playing the game politics…

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