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Something that once really resonated with me when I questioned ending a very long term relationship: “never cling to a mistake just because you’ve spent a long time making it”
Yes. Completely unromantic and very difficult to process when love is involved.
Better to break off an engagement than get divorced.
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I know a couple people who have broken off engagements, but I’m not close enough with them to ask for reasons..but it happens. I dated someone and maybe a year into the relationship we both mentioned we’d consider marriage (with that person) in 3-5 years.
Throughout the next 6-12 months I got a better sense of how he lives, his values, who/what he prioritizes in life, how he reacts to certain situations, and what life would be like with both sides of our families (or even just the in laws) and none of it matched what I wanted so we broke up. Fast forward to now, and I’m happily married to someone different!
If you’re doubting it now, consider talking with your partner and delaying/canceling/not booking a wedding. Consider premarital counseling (or look up discussion questions online) to get a deeper understanding of what you both want in a future spouse. Break ups are easier than divorce.
Are you asking about just the engagement or the entire relationship?
Personally I have broken the engagement but not the relationship.
Purely for the reason of not being 1000% sure I wanted to be in this forever.
The fact that you’re asking this question means you have doubts about getting married.
It’s no longer a requirement to get married to be together with someone forever.
Bottom line is. Follow your head and heart. They do reconcile.
It’s sad to end things that were once awesome but no longer are. Even sadder is to stay in a situation that could make life difficult or even lead to anger.
I send you strength to make the decision that’s best for you.
I did. Broke off the engagement and the relationship back in 2018. We had been dating for about a year and a half before we got engaged. I struggled with the decision and even went to therapy to make sure I was making the right decision. But, at the end of the day, the relationship didn’t feel right for me. We were great friends, but the rest of it wasn’t there. I was not excited about a future with him. I know it’s an incredibly tough decision, but you have to trust your gut.
With that said, I’m engaged, and much more excited about this man. There is someone out there for you, if this one isn’t it.
Sending you my thoughts and prayers. Not me, but close friends of ours. They were engaged a month and the engagement made her realize that she did not see him as the father of her children and it also highlighted some issues they were facing for several months. They broke up officially and are now looking for different living arrangements and seem both relieved. I would recommend you ask yourself if you can imagine your future and whether it includes your SO. If you can see yourself without SO and feel relieved that the fighting/tension/whatever issues with SO are over, you have your answer. Trust your gut.
Yes I did. I can't quite explain how I knew other than I knew I wasn't really happy and I just had this feeling in my gut that he wasn't the one. Looking back now I am so glad that I did it. We are both wayyyyy happier apart.
Did you/ do you ever regret? How old were you/ are you?
F / i am in a similar situation and wondering what to do. I am thinking of you (and also looking for advice).
On the same boat. May I PM you?
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OP can you describe some of what you’re feeling and how long you’ve been feeling that way?
FWIW: I just got married and life gets crazy and sometimes things are hard. I love my husband but at times relationships are challenging, couple that with other life/personal/professional things and it seems overwhelming.