Has anyone hosted their own engagement party? All of my friends and family live far away from us so it is just easier for me to plan it but I feel odd doing so. Any tips?

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I think it’s ok to plan your own if you don’t ask for gifts. If you have a registry it can feel a little like a gift grab if you plan your own. Just my understanding.

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I didn’t know it’s usually hosted by others. Who cares, it’s a party. If you wanna plan one do it. People will come

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I didn’t know someone else hosted this either!

I mean this in a very kind way, but do you need an engagement party? Friends and family will already be coming to see you for the wedding, paying for travel, buying gifts, and many of them attending showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties too. It’s beginning to feel like there’s so many parties for one wedding...

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Oh I see! I thought it was the other way around! Thanks for the clarification.

In this case yeah I think it’s normal for you to plan your own!

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We planned our own engagement party in NYC (where most of our friends and family are). We are based in LA. I think it’s pretty standard to plan your own party as a couple. Keep it casual and easy. More like an excuse to celebrate. This was pre pandemic before there was a backlog of weddings.

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I thought everyone planned their own....

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I’ve just read so many things online about how your MOH or families have to plan it. I don’t like putting my tasks on other people’s plates because I don’t want to be upset about not having something the way I expected lol

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My fiancé and I live far away from both our families. My side is throwing us an engagement party back home that's kind of being used to substitute the reception for people who can't travel for the wedding. Fiancé's family may do the same thing in their part of the country! We are not hosting a local engagement party.

For reference, I live in Tennessee, my family in Texas, and his family in North Carolina. All long drives so some old folks can't make it to the wedding.

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