Is it a red flag when you're on a first date with a girl and she asks about your salary? I feel like this should be an eighth or ninth date conversation.

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Yes it’s a red flag, not only because it renders the potential relationship transactional, but also because if she was smart she’d just look up what the usual salary range is for someone with your job title. If you have a LinkedIn, she can see how long you’ve been working and at which company, then look up online how much those positions are usually paid. That will avoid the need to even ask the question altogether.

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Thank you for reminding how much I don't miss the dating scene 😂😂. Zero subtlety. That's not a first date conversation at all IMO. If it's a good date, there should be a whole lot more to talk about than salary.

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Girl here, I think first date is too early. But at same time sounds like she’s trying to filter out without wasting time. You could just ask her why she wants to know on first date. Given she is so bluntly asking you, she would probably be okay answering her reason as well.

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I almost always look a guy up on LinkedIn before a first date and so while I don’t look up salaries, you usually have an idea based on what they do, not that it matters either way

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Depending on how it was asked/brought up

Ha! Yeah probably

Hmm I don’t think it’s a good idea on a first date

You really have to ask a bunch strangers? Run, ASAP.

I mean, kind of? It certainly shows her priorities if nothing else. It's not a bad thing, but I'd worry she's dating for money, not love.

In this post-dotcom era, thus should have been known prior to the first dates. Lol check Bumble Match etc for profile checks and compatibility check.

Salary should not be brought if you are not engaged. Thats how people get used for money. Keep that info to yourself.

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