It makes me very sad when my husband says stuff like “We thought we’d never see Mama again!” Or “Mom is finally home!” I told him this, but he keeps doing it 😥 Not sure if I’m really looking for advice, maybe just solidarity.

Sounds normal…. if you just got back from 12 months on the international space station. But what a huge overreaction after a day at work or even a big production. 🙃

Definitely a hot button for me too. I feel like I constantly catch hell for being a working Mom and being "gone all the time" and yet no one bats an eye at a Dad doing the same.

If you tell your spouse that something they are doing is hurtful to you. And they keep doing it… what does that tell you?

That is very uncool. I’m sorry.

It’s easy for me, as a single woman, to feel down like I’m not living a full life without a husband or children. And then I read things like this and all of a sudden, I’m real good with my place in life! Girl this is not ok and life doesn’t have to be like this.

No offense to your husband, but this is clearly his issue, not yours :) Maybe a way to get him to hear you would be turning it into a convo on how he might feel more equipped to parent when you’re gone? This is hard, sending you hugs.

Oh adding to mom guilt is a big no for me. I’ve seen my friends significant others do that or when the kids are old enough allow them to message the moms about how they miss them and want them to come home. I find really manipulative. I already told my husband if he ever it would be the last of him 🤣

Totally get that. Doesn’t make your return any easier. Sorry!

Tell him again more firmly? I’m sorry you’re dealing with that :(

Getting home after a long day should feel GOOD not guilty.

Oh my fiery personality would give him the full wrath after not listening the first few times.

Like full: "wtf is your problem? You don't think I feel shitty or guilty enough when the kids miss me? Do YOU want to make my salary so I can stay home? Or is this your passive aggressive way to let me know you don't think I do enough at home? Because you could say it to me more directly."

(Not saying this is the approach you should take but in the dynamic of my relationship, we are very direct and it works for us. And I am being a little dramatic for effect)

My husband used to do this. I explained my feelings on several occasions. Finally I started doing it to him. We spoke again and it all stopped. Not saying any of that was right, but was my experience.

Oh my goodness that would be so hard I’m sorry

That’s extremely unfair of him to do. I’m sorry. Agree that therapy might be a good option.