My family is pissed off that I’m not spending Father’s Day with them on a weeks notice (I have plans with a friend). I’m nearly 40. Similar things have happened in the past. I feel like because I’m gay and don’t have children, it’s assumed just sitting around waiting for my family to tell me what to do. Anyone had similar experiences?

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Not really but as a bisexual I have actually been accused of and this is an exact quote" Playing at being gay'. Care to swap?

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I mean this has everything to do with boundaries and really what you think about yourself, not what your family will think of you. Whatever your choice is you gotta stand by it.

Family dynamics are weird. If your mother and brother are mad and trying to manipulate you, sir they may have been manipulating you your entire life.

IMO, get your autonomy back and just tell your dad 1:1 that you can meet him next week or something.

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If you have a bod relationship with your family, I understand the comment. I’m assuming by the tone and use of the word “them”, that’s the case. Is maintaining the relationship worth the effort? I understand it’s not a black-and-white issue but you’re 40 and it’s still unresolved. Maybe parts of the family are close and others aren’t?

Do you not normally spend Father’s Day with your Dad? I don’t because I live far but would expect to if I lived close. But I have a pretty solid relationship with him.

Yes I do normally. I made plans a month ago and it wasn’t even on my radar. Now they texted me a week before and when I realized I had plans, I said - sorry, I will be away. No my mother and brother have blown it out into this huge thing about how I don’t have any interest in my family, I don’t call anyone, I don’t go to any holidays - all of which is a lie.

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This shouldn’t matter but I have to ask do you all live in the same town

No, 2 hours away

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