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I think you should rehome your husband instead
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Also yes I agree. My dog was in her crate she likes to go there and rest and nap sometimes. My kid was in the dogs safe space when the food thing happened
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I think you should respect your husbands wishes and rehome the dog for the sake of your relationship. Some people don’t have good relations with animals and the fact that your dog bit your child is probably enough for him to think that it’s a ticking time bomb ready to go off at any point. I don’t think there’s anything you can do to convince him and you need to ask yourself how much hell you’re willing to put yourself and your family through for the sake of one dog.
I think her husband should respect his wife’s wishes and let the dog stay put for the sake of their relationship. Some people have great relationships with animals and the fact the dog only bit the child once, despite deserving more, is a sign the dog is not violent. I don’t think there is anything he can do to convince you to let go of the dog and he needs to ask himself if he’s willing to split his family for a dog.
Do you blame your husband?
The dog is not at fault, and the child is not at fault. They are doing what they do, and unfortunately, that ended in this incident. It sounds like your husband is trying to keep your family safe, and it seems as though he thinks not having a dog is the best way to do that. He is probably right. Of course, this is a big deal for you because you are emotionally attached to the dog, which is only natural (I have kids and dogs too, and I love them all). But the kids are always the priority, even if doing something causes the dog to do what dogs sometimes do. This is a very hard thing to do but the right thing is not always the easy thing.
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The best way he could have kept his family safe was by supervising his dang kid. My dog is very very sweet. She was caught off guard. She was safe in her cage when my toddler took food away from her
Well as a father he doesn't want to take a chance. Second with a toddler it's a shit load of work around the house so maybe he wants to not take on any dog responsibility (if you expect him to) at this point. You can choose to let this be a problem to keep you up at night and eventually bother the marriage or just think about it a little and re-home the dog.
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I take 100% responsibility for the dogs. We both work full-time but I definitely have the “mother load”
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Wait, is it a pit
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We’re getting one perspective here.
Before you go further down the hyperbole path of leaving your husband because he doesn’t like the one dog that nipped your kid (but is fine with the other ). Get a dog trainer and start (if you already don’t) trying to read up on behavior and training for dogs). That’s number one. Both adults need to reset expectations and guidelines for dogs - keeps pups safe and adjusted and keeps kiddos safe. I’ve seen tons of trainers comment on folks who love dogs but set bad boundaries/training on food/furniture/kids/leash work/crates (you’ve mentioned a few of these). Does the dog a disservice as they don’t even have a chance to know what’s the right behavior/expectations (and then beyond that there’s the nature thing but you’ve absolutely gotta start with nurture).
That also creates a new baseline and language to discuss the dog in the future (all that assumes this isn’t a time bomb going off soon). If the dog can’t acclimate to the training and you both have diligently followed the new rules then maybe they need a child free environment. (Which is still ok - doing what’s best for the dog doesn’t have to include you feeling guilty).
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Are you the same OP who posted about it a month or so ago?
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I think that poster from a month ago wanted to rehome her husband’s dog, not the other way around
Just explain (or re-explain) to your husband why you believe his perspective on the incident is off and why keeping the dog is very important to you.
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You don’t think we have discussed that over the year lol
I say get rid of the husband…LOL
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I said he could leave lol
What about getting the dog into training so they are also learning what is appropriate behavior with kids?
Maybe appropriate isn’t the right word here - your dog was just being a dog and it was an isolated incident a year ago.
I have an 8 yo shiba (typically not a kid friendly dog) and a 2 year old toddler as well. We’ve done a lot of proactive positive reinforcement training with our dog to avoid issues since she’s a primitive breed and I think it’s made a difference since it’s teaching us how to control our behavior to get her to do what we want.
So, basically training your husband under the guise of dog training.
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What kind of dog is it ?
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What kind of dog is it? For instance, I would have different reactions/thoughts if it was a Chihuahua rather than a German Shepherd.
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What races/cultural backgrounds are you and your husband? This could be playing a factor
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Ok but you’d dump your husband for the dog? Priorities -100😂😂😂
Accidents happen, keep the dog away from you guys when you’re eating next time.
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I do. He wasn’t watching our child lol. Kids should be eating dinner at the table.
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I would rehome that husband instead…
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I want to try and work through it. It’s hard to see his side