My Manager Uses ‘Jokes’ as Weapons

Lately my manager has been making “playful” comments about people’s work in team meetings — stuff like “Well, at least someone tried,” followed by a laugh. Everyone forces a smile, but you can feel the tension. How do you tell a leader their humor cuts like a blade?

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Are these comments always directed at the same person or the same people? This is definitely landing the wrong way if it’s directed at everybody or it’s not feedback still needs to be given.

It is giving feedback up, but many times it is needed. So if you feel comfortable doing it please, because not only is it hurting the team it’s hurting the person saying that. And even though in their mind, they may think they’re just joking, it also has to do with character and integrity.

You can’t fix what no one will tell you is broke.

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“Sounds a little harsh, don’t you think? “

Do you have someone more senior who can talk to them about it? If not and it’s properly affecting people you could all report it to HR as a general flag?

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