Ok - I know this is silly, but looking to see if anyone else feels like this…. Recently turned 42, mom of a 9 and 5 year old. Got an IUD after the birth of my second child. Always long for a 3rd, but 2 is all we can handle. Husband has no desire for more, but he’d go along with it if it didnt impact his golf……. 🙄. Anyway, I’d never follow through in getting the IUD removed early, but i periodically google odds of IUD migration hoping I’d get pregnant anyway. Am I the only one that does this?!

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Sounds like something unresolved to work out with a therapist. What makes you want a 3rd if 2 is all you can handle and your husband is not on board?

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I think it’s one thing to want it and another to hope an IUD fails.

I mean I sometimes contemplate having another, but the state of the world, knowing my mental health would suffer, and finances would take a hit if I had another makes me make sure my birth control is working, not secretly wish for another pregnancy.

I think you should think more about this whole thing, like SM1 says. It sounds like something is really tugging at you and talking it through will probably offer a lot of benefits to you, both in the present and the future (no matter what happens.).

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I went ahead and had the third. Our house looks like it was stirred with a wisk. I look at photos from 8 years and 1 kid ago and marvel how clean our house looked. No regrets.

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Similar - no IUD. But for years after we had our 3rd, I wondered about a 4th. I kinda always thought we'd do it eventually. But we were in a rocky spot in our marriage...not good enough for a long-enough period that I ever felt like we should really try for a 4th. So for at least a few years, I hoped for an 'oops'. I've never been on birth control....we use condoms, which can definitely have an oops here and there. Same that I never would've done it on purpose, but also knew that we'd make it work if it happened. Never did though. Our marriage is still rocky and our youngest is 8 and I'm now in my 40s. Guess 3 was meant to be my max.

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Yes… we have ebbs and flows, too. I know I could handle two kids on my own but three would be a stretch for me!

Yeaaaaa but no

I’d just have a third kid.

YES. I'm really on the fence about a 3rd and there a part of me that secretly hopes that the decision is made for me by an oopsie LOL

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