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No, don’t mention it. You aren’t required to legally mention it when interviewing, and mom discrimination is absolutely real.
Alternatively, do mention it, and make sure your future employer is family-friendly and it’s somewhere you want to work.
A man wouldn’t mention it.
Exactly what Director1 said- the difference is if a man mentions it, he’s seen as a “family man” and actually helps his reputation, while a woman mentioning she’s a mom is more likely to be discriminated against because supposedly she won’t be as committed to the job
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Depends - how desperate are you for a job? If you get to be choosy, mention it and use it as a filter to weed out jobs that aren’t family friendly. If you NEED the job, don’t mention it at all, get yourself that money, and figure out your next step. Unfortunately people definitely discriminate against new moms. Good luck!
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No way, it’s not going to make you look better. Interviews are all about showing the best side of yourself and motherhood is also irrelevant to workplace performance.
Sadly, saying you’re a black belt in karate (and needing to leave work and train for it) might make you look better than saying you’re a mom, in the world we’re in today.
I always mention my kids, because I want anywhere I work to know upfront that my family comes first and I’m not interested in a job that can’t respect there needs to be a balance. When recruiters describe jobs or companies to me as “intense”, I politely decline to continue the conversation because at this stage of my life, that’s not what I want for me and for my family. I was just recruited for a role today, and I told the recruiter upfront that 2-5p PT (they are in CA) is off-limits because that’s my time with my kids in the evening on the East Coast. If I don’t get the job because of that - oh well. I’m not going to miss every dinner and bedtime for a job.
On one hand, I wouldn’t want to work for an employer who would use my parent status against me. On the other hand, my status as a parent has no bearing on my employability.
I would probably not mention it unless *very* confident the employer is parent-friendly.
Thanks. I think not mentioning it is my way to go, I feel very much judged.
I always wait until I get the offer and then negotiate final details like hours/schedule before I accept. I tend to feel out the culture for an overall fit through the interview process, but then confirm my expectations and needs before accepting. 
I was pregnant when interviewing (and have a child already) and took the job without disclosing until a few months in. I felt just from the interview process how important balance and family was to everyone, including men. It was a little easier to identify that during this time when everyone is finding out how to prioritize in new ways.
No!
No! I interviewed at a shop for head of strategy and during the “we’re making you an offer” phase they found out I had a 3mo old at home. Suddenly instead of the salary we had been talking about, I was pitched a reduced salary AND lower title because - I shit you not - “you don’t really want to keep running a department if you’ll be distracted”.
Nah. A few years back in Kansas City.